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Legendary Yo Mama Due January 31 (boy); 12 kids; 724 posts
22nd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:</b>" So not true. Really. Not true."</blockquote>

user banned Due July 3; 2 kids; Australia 14351 posts
22nd Dec '12

Do you guys actually want to get married? I have been with my SO for nearly 8 years and we have almost 3 kids together, we have no plans to ever marry because 1. We cant afford to spend money on one day and 2. We dont see much of a point

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Stl mama:" Sell the rings for scrap gold and get married. If he's the one not willing, get out. He's playing you."


This sounds legit.



:roll:

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
22nd Dec '12

"wedding is a family present" lmao omg, you tell my 4 year old that and see what happens.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" "wedding is a family present" lmao omg, you tell my 4 year old that and see what happens. "


Their children are quite young and probably didn't really understand.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
22nd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" f**k that. Forget what anyone else says about being married, etc..(.especially Americans on BG). It's ... [snip!] ... to please other people. If you're fine the way you are, so be it. Your relationship isn't about what anyone else thinks."</blockquote>




Exactly!!

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Mrs Somerhalder:" Do you guys actually want to get married? I have been with my SO for nearly 8 years and we have almost ... [snip!] ... together, we have no plans to ever marry because 1. We cant afford to spend money on one day and 2. We dont see much of a point"


I don't know really ... nothing in our lives would change at all. We're already next of kin, have a joint will, joint health/life insurance, joint money, own property and vehicles together. I just can't seem to (in my mind) justify sacrificing things for a single day that's not going to change a damn thing.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" Their children are quite young and probably didn't really understand."


It doesn't matter, for all I care throw the rings on and tell people you're married. When people put aside real life expenses to pay for a wedding it's because they want it. Do you want your wedding more than your college books? I'm thinking no. You just aren't that kinda materialistic woman.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" It doesn't matter, for all I care throw the rings on and tell people you're married. When people put ... [snip!] ... it. Do you want your wedding more than your college books? I'm thinking no. You just aren't that kinda materialistic woman. "


There's just so many other things I need with that money. Our fridge is dying, DS is going to need a toddler bed soon, text books, SO's car is dying a slow death, and then just the usual bills. And I loathe the idea of taking out a personal loan to pay for it.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" There's just so many other things I need with that money. Our fridge is dying, DS is going to need a ... [snip!] ... car is dying a slow death, and then just the usual bills. And I loathe the idea of taking out a personal loan to pay for it."


Lets say you drop $500 tonight, what happens when you wake up? What's changed? Do you think you'll feel different? I mean, I felt different because I'm the complete opposite of you, I was like 'Yay, I'm suddenly more important"



pffsh, you putting it off has nothing to do with your commitment, you know what does have something to do with your commitment? The fact that you've been together for almost a decade.

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" "wedding is a family present" lmao omg, you tell my 4 year old that and see what happens. "


:lol::lol:

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Dec '12

I just feel like maybe I should let him go and be with someone who is willing to do these things for him. I'm also incredibly selfish in that I want a career, and want to further my schooling for a degree that has nothing to do with my chosen career path. He's stood by me through the whole thing and I can't even be bothered marrying him.



I feel like I've failed him

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I just feel like maybe I should let him go and be with someone who is willing to do these things for ... [snip!] ... career path. He's stood by me through the whole thing and I can't even be bothered marrying him. I feel like I've failed him"


If he's not pushing for a wedding, then he probably doesn't feel that way. And you know what? If he does, he can find the extra cash to get it done.



I think you're just kind of stuck in your head right now-really.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" If he's not pushing for a wedding, then he probably doesn't feel that way. And you know what? If he ... [snip!] ... what? If he does, he can find the extra cash to get it done. I think you're just kind of stuck in your head right now-really."</blockquote>




He wants yo get married though ... He just knows better than to push

user banned Due July 3; 2 kids; Australia 14351 posts
22nd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The (super kinky) Master:</b>" I just feel like maybe I should let him go and be with someone who is willing to do these things for ... [snip!] ... career path. He's stood by me through the whole thing and I can't even be bothered marrying him. I feel like I've failed him"</blockquote>




Why do you have to be the one to sacrifice something?