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Nahanajahnaha Pennsatucky Due August 17 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2907 posts
23rd Dec '12

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Crazy Train 18 kids; Killeen, Texas 1478 posts
23rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" I swear this will be my last post of the day.... I can't stand my son's father. It's freaking 35 degrees ... [snip!] ... and the paralegal at my law office says that if he continues to talk abusive to me that it is technically a violation. help"</blockquote>



Record the conversations is my best advice

That girl Amber +2 2 kids; California 6981 posts
23rd Dec '12

Why wouldnt you just put a blanket on the car seat? Then dad could have taken it off in the car. Sounds like hes irritated that youre always trying to tell him what to do and how to do it.

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 31502 posts
23rd Dec '12

What the f**k...



Sounds like the problem lies with him.

Pennsatucky Due August 17 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2907 posts
23rd Dec '12
Quoting Amberchik78:" Why wouldnt you just put a blanket on the car seat? Then dad could have taken it off in the car. Sounds like hes irritated that youre always trying to tell him what to do and how to do it."


Whats the difference between a carseat cover and a blanket? they can both me removed.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
23rd Dec '12

He does sound like he has an anger issue and he definitely should not be talking to you in front of your kid that way.



However, you're probably triggering by nitpicking at him about little things. His reaction is inappropriate but you have to choose your battles. The baby is not going to die, or even get sicker, if he's exposed to cold air for a couple seconds, especially if you have him dressed warm, which I'm sure you do.

Pennsatucky Due August 17 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2907 posts
23rd Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" He does sound like he has an anger issue and he definitely should not be talking to you in front of your ... [snip!] ... get sicker, if he's exposed to cold air for a couple seconds, especially if you have him dressed warm, which I'm sure you do. "


I know I am anal about that especially when it's very windy. he apparently cannot wear a jacket with a carseat so I like to make sure he is kept warm even if it's a few seconds. I don't see why it had to be a fight for him to put it since it takes two seconds...but I am more concerned with my child being exposed to that kind of language, anger, and dynamic between his parents. This needs to stop.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
23rd Dec '12

Cold air doesn't cause or make sickness worse, not without prolonged exposure. I've never used a carseat cover in my life and many of them (not all) violate carseat safety regs, so I just use a blanket and tuck it around baby as best I can.



Record the abusive language and give it to your lawyer/case worker.

Pennsatucky Due August 17 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2907 posts
23rd Dec '12

My friend insists on making a police report.

HappinessInMisery 3 kids; Ohio 30396 posts
23rd Dec '12

A carseat cover usually violates codes for the actual seat. Same with coats. Use a light blanket. Not a huge deal. As for the breastmilk, why would he dump it? THAT would be something I'd freak out on. Especially if I never wanted my kid to have formula. Dad shouldn't get a say in that really.

Ember Neugent 51 kids; Muskogee, Oklahoma 65 posts
23rd Dec '12

It never hurts to make a paper trail so yes I would call your lawyer and talk to them cause he has no right to talk like that and its not fair to your baby to have to see that even if he doesnt yet realize whats going on it could still effect him in the long run. My son was 9 months old when me and his father split and he is 3 now but if I tell him to do something like pick up his toys he will tell me to shut up which is what his father used to do.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
23rd Dec '12
Quoting Peppa pig:" I know I am anal about that especially when it's very windy. he apparently cannot wear a jacket with ... [snip!] ... concerned with my child being exposed to that kind of language, anger, and dynamic between his parents. This needs to stop."


Most guys don't think "wow, it's cold out, the baby is probably cold too without a blanket," they only think about themselves. It seems absurd to us as mothers but it's just a different mentality. If he's anything like my sons' father he'll get pissed off and not cover him or give him the breast milk out of spite - not caring about the child. It sucks.

Pennsatucky Due August 17 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2907 posts
23rd Dec '12
Quoting Loveislouder:" A carseat cover usually violates codes for the actual seat. Same with coats. Use a light blanket. Not ... [snip!] ... be something I'd freak out on. Especially if I never wanted my kid to have formula. Dad shouldn't get a say in that really."


He was refusing to take it and walked off with the baby telling me to "keep my bottle" ...so yeah that pissed me off..I told him not to dump it and that's when he said to go f**k myself.




Has he given my son formula in addition to ten ounces of breast milk when he had him for four hours? yes...do i think he dumps my breast milk when he gets pissed at me? yes...do i have proof? no.




This is the carseat cover i use: http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4033679&CAWELAID=689623392&pla=plab&cagpspn=pla



They told me at the child safety class I took that this is safe...the bundleme isn't, however. Then again they failed to mention that jackets are unsafe. I even brought it up to my pedi and she didn't seem to have any knowledge of this.

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 31502 posts
23rd Dec '12
Quoting Peppa pig:" He was refusing to take it and walked off with the baby telling me to "keep my bottle" ...so yeah that ... [snip!] ... failed to mention that jackets are unsafe. I even brought it up to my pedi and she didn't seem to have any knowledge of this. "


How long does he have your LO at a time?