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****************************** Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12

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† Phoenix † 1 angel baby; 16166 posts
24th Dec '12

he stayed for 5 years because it wasn't his time to go. I was told before that when a person is strong enough to pull through times they could have died its because they haven't gotten to do or see everything they wanted to see and do and when they finally pass its because they feel peace so they can rest in peace. I believe that too.

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3107 posts
status 24th Dec '12

:( I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man.

Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" he stayed for 5 years because it wasn't his time to go. I was told before that when a person is strong ... [snip!] ... wanted to see and do and when they finally pass its because they feel peace so they can rest in peace. I believe that too. "

He was as stubborn as they come, and it was gonna take more than e-coli, no kidney function and heart problems to take him down :P I'm sad that he didn't get to meet my son, his great-great grandson.
He lived a long life, and went the way he wanted to.. quietly and peacefully with no one around.

Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting Blah:" :( I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man. "


He was :D He sort of adopted mum as his daughter cos her dad wasn't around, he was really her grandfather. raised three kids, a granddaughter, and helped raise me. Worked hard, played hard. He was awesome :)

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24th Dec '12
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" I know how that is my grandpa is going through a lot of that right now and has been for years and they ... [snip!] ... watches over you so he does get to see your sweet little boy! It's good he went the way he wanted to not everyone can say that."


Thanks hun :) This is our first christmas without him, and coming up to the one year anniversary of his death :( It's gonna be a hard one.

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24th Dec '12
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" your welcome :) if you need someone to talk to i'm here for you! It would have been my baby's 2 birthday ... [snip!] ... and it may not be the same since it was a miscarriage, but i know the feeling of loss so i am always here if you need to talk."


Thank you :) Same to you! I'm on here like 90% of the time lol. I'm bfing constantly so don't like to leave the house :P
And a miscarriage is just as much a loss as a death is IMO. It's just different because you're losing the possibility instead of the person, KWIM? I had a miscarriage a few years ago and at the time I was partying and drinking heaps and sort of pushed it to the back of my mind.. but now I have DS and I think about what that baby could have been and I'm kicking myself for how lightly I took it at the time. it affects me a lot more now than it did when it actually happened :(

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24th Dec '12
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" your welcome :) yes so am i lol i just don't have much of a life right now so i am on here too much ... [snip!] ... does a lot to your mind at the time. It affects you a lot more now because you have your son and your are clean minded."


I never used to see it as a death.. I wasn't far along, and I'd only found out a few days before I began miscarrying so I wasn't attached to the pregnancy yet. I'd already decided I was going to keep it though :( Now I see it for what it was, the same as what my son was at that stage and it makes me sad. Always wondered if my drinking or the other dumb shit I was doing caused it :(

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24th Dec '12
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4630 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" Sometimes it just happens and it sucks, but never blame yourself. I learned that not too long ago and ... [snip!] ... not blaming myself. I try to think positive about it and sometimes that's hard especial around the holidays and January 15th. "


I'm really sorry about your loss :( Life sucks, and shitty things happen to good people and it's not fair. I hope the holiday isn't too hard on you :(
I gotta catch some zz's but I'll give you a PM in the morning sometime :D Enjoy your christmas eve! x

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Dr. Elliot Reid 1 child; New Zealand 8801 posts
24th Dec '12

Aww hun im so sorry :(