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vent/advice Kathy Mejia 17 kids; Merced, California 70 posts
24th Dec '12

okay this is going to be kind of a long vent..



okay well this all started while i was pregnant & my boyfriends mom wanted to be so apart of everything & when i say everything i mean everything, okay well my boyfriends mom mention to me once that if her son & i didnt work out that we would have to go to court for custody but she said that i was going to be fighting her for it not her son well every since then i kind of got a vibe from her that she wanted to be in control of everything, which a little after she started showing it ,she wanted me to name my daughter after her if not then whatever name she picked out which i told her she needed to back off that was up to me & my boyfriend, she did back off for a little until she was calling my daughter Mia which i liked the name until she told me the reason why she wanted that name, which was because it sounds like Mine in Spanish Mia Mine, okay so i said no to that then after she started saying that my daughter was hers..joking around saying that i was just a surrogate for her which got annoying after a while it made me not like her as before so when the day came to have my baby i was already set with the people i wanted in the room while delivering, & she wasnt one of them she begged her son & told my mom to ask me if she can but i honestly wanted to have a nice experience of delivering my first child but since i didnt have her in the room with me she started drama over the privacy i wanted for me & my boyfriend with our daughter, i wanted us as first time parents to have our alone time at the hospital since i know everyone wanted to see her, i was in labor for 24 hours with no sleep & all i wanted was some rest, right when they cleaned me up & stuff she comes in saying people were going to come which i stop her & said i didnt want no one coming but right when i said that her husband was already there which was fine i guess but she didnt bother asking me if it was okay to be telling people to come visit or anything that really pissed me off, the whole time i was in the hospital she would show up without saying anything to me just her son which got me even more mad so i just told my nurse not to let anyone in. yeah i probably was a b***h to do it but all i asked was for some privacy with my baby. when i was discharged she wanted to take me out to eat to talk, so i went she wanted me to apologize to her & her family which i found that i didnt because it was my decision & she should respect that, now that my daughters 4 months she still the same, she considers my daughter to be her, i already talked to her about things that she does that bugs me but she keeps going with it, started to feel like she doesnt care on what i say, she tells me one thing but does the opposite, so im asking if anyone been in a situation like this?? & now she said she wants my daughter to call her & her husband mama & papa which i totally disagreed on that, im not comfortable leaving my baby with her & her husband, am i wrong to feel like this?? what can i do to stop this issue from being a big deal with me & my boyfriend?? he thinks im over reacting on how i feel towards his family..

Bianca Marrow Due March 31; Japan 4 posts
24th Dec '12

I would most def watch her. I feel like she has something up her sleve. If I where you I would go down to the courts and file for full custody. I know you are still with your boyfriend, but you don't want for her to brainwash him into doing it and they both try to take your baby. Just to be on the safe side that's what I would do because it sounds like this situation may get ugly.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 21324 posts
24th Dec '12

I'd honestly move a couple hours out of town, she sounds crazy.

Kathy Mejia 17 kids; Merced, California 70 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting Bianca Marrow:" I would most def watch her. I feel like she has something up her sleve. If I where you I would go down ... [snip!] ... try to take your baby. Just to be on the safe side that's what I would do because it sounds like this situation may get ugly."


my mom tells me the same thing she has a feeling she will take my daughter away, & im going to look in on that more & i am considering getting full custody, shes a crazy b***h at times & i notuced yesterday when i was over there her husband kissed my daughter close to her mouth .. to me thats not all right with me

Kathy Mejia 17 kids; Merced, California 70 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting Colt's mommy:" I'd honestly move a couple hours out of town, she sounds crazy."


me & my boyfriend are going too, shes getting out of hand

Bianca Marrow Due March 31; Japan 4 posts
24th Dec '12

Yeah she sounds crazy... you don't want that headache over this stupid bullshit.... that way with custody it you where to lekeep her for the day she will have to bringher back to ya our you could call the po po on that hoe lol

Kathy Mejia 17 kids; Merced, California 70 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting Bianca Marrow:" Yeah she sounds crazy... you don't want that headache over this stupid bullshit.... that way with custody ... [snip!] ... it you where to lekeep her for the day she will have to bringher back to ya our you could call the po po on that hoe lol"


shes German i heard they can be a little crazy lol i laughed so hard reading the last part :D but yes im getting custody & its like all the time me & my boyfriend fight she says you guys will have to go to court

Bianca Marrow Due March 31; Japan 4 posts
24th Dec '12

Sounds like she don't want y'all to be together..... but you getting custodyi is what's best for u and your baby.... I hope it works out

Sheldon Cooper Uruguay 300 posts
24th Dec '12

Yes get some sort of custody set up. If you and your boyfriend break up I don't think he has to return your daughter until custody is set up. I think it depends on each state but still not a risk I would want to take.