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Hospital bereavement services Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 24th Dec '12

Have you ever used them? This second trimester loss is harder than I could have imagined and I need something. I'm not a religious person and would love to talk with a professional who has experience with this kind of loss specifically.

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
24th Dec '12

I used it in 2008 when we lost a twin at 19 weeks. It helped me some, better than doing it on my own but it's still a struggle to think about it.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 24th Dec '12
Quoting wilde_mommy:" I used it in 2008 when we lost a twin at 19 weeks. It helped me some, better than doing it on my own but it's still a struggle to think about it."


Was it group counseling or individual? Did you go weekly? Monthly?

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 3929 posts
status 24th Dec '12

When i had lost my first child at 24 weeks i left the hospital against medical advice. I ended going insane and eventually checked my self in into a mental hospital

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 24th Dec '12
Quoting BlackVelvet:" When i had lost my first child at 24 weeks i left the hospital against medical advice. I ended going insane and eventually checked my self in into a mental hospital"


Wow I'm so sorry. I definitely don't want things to get even close to that far.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 3929 posts
status 24th Dec '12
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Wow I'm so sorry. I definitely don't want things to get even close to that far."


I was in complete denial and in an abusive relationship at the time. I was a walking time bomb. Plus my ex was cheating on me while i was in the hospital losing our child.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 24th Dec '12
Quoting BlackVelvet:" I was in complete denial and in an abusive relationship at the time. I was a walking time bomb. Plus my ex was cheating on me while i was in the hospital losing our child."


That's horrible. I'm very lucky in that department. My husband is suffering too but he's been a huge support for me.

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Was it group counseling or individual? Did you go weekly? Monthly?"

It was weekly group, I met some of my closest friends there

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 24th Dec '12
Quoting wilde_mommy:" It was weekly group, I met some of my closest friends there"


I will definitely be looking into it. It would be great to have friends who can relate.

Carter&Violet♥ She Gone! 2 kids; Virginia 14177 posts
24th Dec '12

Oh Amelia I'm so sorry :(

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 24th Dec '12
Quoting Carter&Violet♥:" Oh Amelia I'm so sorry :("


Thanks hun. We're coping.

Two Princesses 2 kids; San Pedro, CA, United States 7196 posts
24th Dec '12
Quoting BlackVelvet:" When i had lost my first child at 24 weeks i left the hospital against medical advice. I ended going insane and eventually checked my self in into a mental hospital"


When I lost my first child at 22 weeks, I also left against medical advice.
*Hugs*

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 3929 posts
status 25th Dec '12
Quoting Two Princesses:" When I lost my first child at 22 weeks, I also left against medical advice. *Hugs*"



Did they tell you why you lost your LO?

Dayna Cole 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Bluefield, WV, United States 106 posts
29th Dec '12

:( My heart is breaking for you Amelia. I would suggest getting private. I understand how bad you are hurting right now. Love and hugs.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
status 29th Dec '12
Quoting Dayna Cole:" :( My heart is breaking for you Amelia. I would suggest getting private. I understand how bad you are hurting right now. Love and hugs."


Thank you. Unfortunately my insurance does not cover more than one therapist at a time (I already see a psychiatrist for AD/HD). There is a nurse through the hospital that counsels one-on-one (covered for one year) but I think the group counseling might be what I need, which meets once a month. I'm going to check it out.