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Severe Depression Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
25th Dec '12

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regina_margot 2 kids; New York, New York 1543 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" My DH has been diagnosed with severe depression & I'm wondering how other wives deal/handle the situation ... [snip!] ... am. I want to stay and make this work out, I love him, its just the situation is making him a different person sometimes. TIA"


this is probably not what you want to hear but... i'd leave.
i only have one life to live. as much as I'd want to be there for someone, you can't fix a broken person, not a person who doesn't want to fix himself.
the choices aren't to help him get better, or not. i don't think that you CAN help him get better.
your choices are to help YOURSELF, or not.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
25th Dec '12

How long has he been on meds maybe they need to change them what's he on??? How many mgs...
I've been on meds for 11 years off and on its not easy for anybody...I have severy anxiety and panic attacks, med marijauna has helped me a lot but it still have my days

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" How long has he been on meds maybe they need to change them what's he on??? How many mgs... I've been ... [snip!] ... its not easy for anybody...I have severy anxiety and panic attacks, med marijauna has helped me a lot but it still have my days"


He's been on different ones for about a year or so... trying different ones because the first ones made him feel suicidal and these news one helped that feeling go away, but now since he has no progression with his leg, he's getting worse again. I won't give up on him, because I made a vow for better or for worse and he's the father of my child, I just don't know how to be supportive and show him I care. I sometimes get frustrated because he won't have sex with me and never gets excited to do anything. Some days he's good, but I know he's fighting to fake it to make me happy or to look happy when the kids are around.



Did you have any luck with supplements such as vitamin D or B or fish oil or flax seed? I've read that those can help.

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting regina_margot:" this is probably not what you want to hear but... i'd leave. i only have one life to live. as much as ... [snip!] ... to help him get better, or not. i don't think that you CAN help him get better. your choices are to help YOURSELF, or not."


I've contemplated but i'm not the type of person to just leave when things get hard. I have anxiety so I know some what how he's feeling being that he can't control it and I can't control how I feel when I get anxiety but I feel like I'm living a one-way marriage being that he suffers to care about anything at all. I just want to help him cope, get treatment, and find ways to help him feel more "normal."

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
25th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:</b>" He's been on different ones for about a year or so... trying different ones because the first ones made ... [snip!] ... Did you have any luck with supplements such as vitamin D or B or fish oil or flax seed? I've read that those can help."</blockquote>




No... supplements didn't help, not for me anyways thiers diff strains of med marijauna that help diff things that's only thing I've found beides the last kind of meds I was on, I used celexa and I've hardly heard anything bad about that med...