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How did you handle it... The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
25th Dec '12

When you felt one of your SO's friends crossed the line? Did you address the person directly or just talk to your SO about it, were you able to be ok with them still being friends? Were they still friends afterwards?

To make a long story short, she has recently expressed that she is in fact in love with my SO. She has been very public about her feelings for him, but she is trying to make it seem as if the feeling is mutual. I just want to put the b***h in her place, but I dont want to come off as "the insecure b***h who doesnt want her boyfriend to have female friends", because its definitely not the case.

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
25th Dec '12

There is a HUGE difference between letting your hubs have chicks for friends, and letting some loony toons bish have some fake delusional relationship with him. You tell him he needs to set her straight, and you feel free to inform her that what she is doing is inappropriate.

Bandera Roe 1 child; Temple, Texas 170 posts
25th Dec '12

MoSt definitely put her in her place .

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
25th Dec '12

I've never been in that situation, but I'd talk to my DH about his feelings towards/ intentions with this girl. I trust my DH, so I'd probably just lay back and let them continue their friendship. If I felt threatened and I felt that their friendship wasn't that important, I'd ask my DH if he could cut ties with the girl for my comfort. I would NEVER EVER EVER in a million years TELL my DH he had to stop being friends with someone. But in a case where it is a female who "is in love with him," I think it would be appropriate to ASK (not tell him) to end the friendship. Good luck, that's tough!

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting Bandera Roe:" MoSt definitely put her in her place ."


She refuses to have a direct private conversation with me...she is much more interested in giving FB and Twitter a show. I'm too ignorant to even begin that kind of battle with her.

Mommy2Kay 1 child; Florida 4223 posts
25th Dec '12

Put her in her place. She is being extremely disrespectful!!

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20919 posts
25th Dec '12

Talk to your partner... it's his friend & not really yours, right? idk I think it screams insecurity when chicks 'put b***hes in their place' unless the chick is literally psychotic.

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
25th Dec '12
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Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20919 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting That Black Kid
The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Put her in her place. She is being extremely disrespectful!!"

And thats what it comes down to. Respect is earned, and as someone who claimed to be a close friend of his I trusted and respected her. I respected the fact that she has known him for a long time and that they have had alot of experiences together....but f**k this.

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
25th Dec '12
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DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
25th Dec '12

I've talked to my dh, then he was just my bf, but I made him check her, he did it in front of me, after when she tried putting it out there again like he was just doing it to throw me off, I told him he was going to let her rip us apart, he deleted her of myspace (yes this was that long ago)
When we decided to have baby, get married ect. I invited her to everything but she didn't come :roll: no idea why... lol

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" I've talked to my dh, then he was just my bf, but I made him check her, he did it in front of me, after ... [snip!] ... ago) When we decided to have baby, get married ect. I invited her to everything but she didn't come :roll: no idea why... lol"

Yeah...she isnt invited to my wedding anymore. The things that she has said the past couple weeks just make me feel like she is one of those people that say they are happy for you but are plotting on ruining your happiness the whole time.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20919 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting That Black Kid