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Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
26th Dec '12

I don't think I could be friends with someone like that. :?
She's a horrible person. I understand when a marriage is failing, it's failing- but obviously she's not trying to fix it, and gave up for some new dick...while her husband is deployed? Fuck that. I've had so many friends that I've deployed with that have spent months depressed trying to understand why his girlfriend/wife did what she did while we were gone.......it's not fair, and she should have some respect. I hate women like this and would put her in her place, and walk away and never speak to her again.

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" i wouldnt get involved in their relationship by telling him. But I would have a hard time keeping it ... [snip!] ... wouldnt want my husband to think I was ok with her behavior and he might get that impression if he knows you knew about it all."


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user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
26th Dec '12

I would tell her to not tell you anymore about the other man until her divorce is final. Because you are friends to both of them, and you do not condone what she is doing. Cheating is Cheating, regardless if the marriage is ending, until the divorce is final it is cheating.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" I don't think I could be friends with someone like that. :? She's a horrible person. I understand when ... [snip!] ... should have some respect. I hate women like this and would put her in her place, and walk away and never speak to her again."


I absolutely agree that she is being disrespectful... but this hardly makes her a horrible person. She said that they have been having trouble.



Yes, absolutely she is going about it the wrong way. No question.



But... relationships fail. Doesn't make her a horrible person. JMO, of course.

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" I don't think I could be friends with someone like that. :? She's a horrible person. I understand when ... [snip!] ... should have some respect. I hate women like this and would put her in her place, and walk away and never speak to her again."


Yeah. It sucks. Looks like im gonna be losing a friend. But the fact that she thinks its "not cheating" is really getting to me. Like really????

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting The Doctor:" I absolutely agree that she is being disrespectful... but this hardly makes her a horrible person. ... [snip!] ... is going about it the wrong way. No question. But... relationships fail. Doesn't make her a horrible person. JMO, of course."


I disagree. You learn the true character of someone when things get rough. She's running to another man, while her husband is off in a combat zone...because of issues. I don't think I could ever respect someone like that. Whether there were problems or not, she is married.. adultery is still wrong, whether the marriage is happy or unhealthy. So, I still think she's horrible. I don't know. I think I hold issues like this close to me because I've had friends go through this and see the effect it was on them.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting ♥ ORIGINAL:" Yeah. It sucks. Looks like im gonna be losing a friend. But the fact that she thinks its "not cheating" is really getting to me. Like really????"


What did you say to her when she told you that?

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting I'm Marbles:" I would tell her to not tell you anymore about the other man until her divorce is final. Because you ... [snip!] ... what she is doing. Cheating is Cheating, regardless if the marriage is ending, until the divorce is final it is cheating. "


EXACTLY! Its like there both my friends and it is cheating. I would feel terrible if i came back from a deployment and everyone around me knew my husband was cheating and I was the last to know. I just dont know what to do with this info. But im definetly telling my husband, no doubt.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting ♥ ORIGINAL:" Yeah. It sucks. Looks like im gonna be losing a friend. But the fact that she thinks its "not cheating" is really getting to me. Like really????"


Wow. That's sad. Have you said anything to her about this or ignoring it to keep the friendship going?

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting The Doctor:" What did you say to her when she told you that?"


I told her she is still married and bawled her out for doing it. I even asked her if conseling would help. But she flat out says the marriage is over. She even has had him around her son.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
26th Dec '12

I don't agree with all the ppl saying its not your place. If one person would have had the guys to tell me what he was doing, I would have spared myself humiliation and. 4 months of trying to "get back to how we were."
She told you, even if she trusts you she knows there is a chance it will get out. If she sent you a txt or message about it and you have her saying it I'm writing, I'd tell him and show him the proof. It's wrong to keep her nasty dirt a secret. It would be different if she already told him its over or filled for a divorce. But I'm guessing she hasn't and that's cheating.

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Wow. That's sad. Have you said anything to her about this or ignoring it to keep the friendship going?"


We spoke on the phone about it this morning when she called to talk about some random junk. I told her I didnt want any part of it, and called her selfish for putting me in the middle of her drama.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting ♥ ORIGINAL:" I told her she is still married and bawled her out for doing it. I even asked her if conseling would help. But she flat out says the marriage is over. She even has had him around her son."


The grass isn't always greener, and she'll see that soon.
I think the reason she is so adamant about the fact that it is over, is because of this guy she should have never gotten involved with in the first place. Is he also military?

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Jenna+1:" I don't agree with all the ppl saying its not your place. If one person would have had the guys to tell ... [snip!] ... would be different if she already told him its over or filled for a divorce. But I'm guessing she hasn't and that's cheating."


She literally told me over the weekend. And as far as i know, nope no divorce papers have been filed, so yep shes cheating.

♥ ORIGINAL Due April 1; 4 kids; Over the Rainbow, NY, United States 928 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" The grass isn't always greener, and she'll see that soon. I think the reason she is so adamant about ... [snip!] ... that it is over, is because of this guy she should have never gotten involved with in the first place. Is he also military?"


To my understanding hes like 5 or 6 years younger and they met on campus of her school. So i dont think he is.