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SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
26th Dec '12

I would tell her that you don't own the name and she can use it if she wants to but that it would really bother you. That you would not be ok with your kids having the same name, meaning you would have to pick a new name and that would also bother you.
I would just tell her that its the name you have had picked out for a long time and you can't stop her from using it but it would really REALLY bothe you if she did.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Brooke&Joshua+2.5:" She's basically saying that even if I have a boy and she has a boy they still want to use that name. ... [snip!] ... to use that name. Our babies will be born within weeks of each other and have the same name? I just don't think I could do it."

And you guys are like a month pregnant. They'll probably change the name a million times. Get over it or pick a different name.

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
26th Dec '12

She is a good one for even calling and asking you that lol....

The Monk Nerima, Japan 723 posts
26th Dec '12

I would be off put by it because if she is my friend and she knew it bothered me then why would she use it? I would just try to explain how you feel and that it is important to you. :D Good Luck!
P.S.
I know a Parker. She's cute as a button. Might keep it in mind for you girl name too!

Brooke&Joshua+3 3 kids; Waterville, Maine 628 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting That Black Kid
MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" And you guys are like a month pregnant. They'll probably change the name a million times. Get over it or pick a different name."


This. I think you're being a little ridiculous.
Also, did you say you have 3 boy names picked? Just use one of the other ones.

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Brooke&Joshua+2.5:" why call and ask when my opinion meant nothing to her? its just more upsetting knowing she knows how I feel about it and it means nothing to her."

She probably didnt expect you to be a crybaby about it.

Brooke&Joshua+3 3 kids; Waterville, Maine 628 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Muggleish:" I would be off put by it because if she is my friend and she knew it bothered me then why would she use ... [snip!] ... is important to you. :D Good Luck! P.S. I know a Parker. She's cute as a button. Might keep it in mind for you girl name too!"


She's not just my friend, she's my best girl friend. We tell each other more then we tell our own husbands :/ If it was someone I wasn't so close with I probably wouldn't feel as badly about it.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
26th Dec '12

Also, Parker is a decently common name. What if your Parker has a friend in school named Parker? Are you going to tell him he can't hang out with the other Parker because you would think it's "weird"? Not much different.

Brooke&Joshua+3 3 kids; Waterville, Maine 628 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting MommyToWesley:" This. I think you're being a little ridiculous. Also, did you say you have 3 boy names picked? Just use one of the other ones."


no we had picked 3 boy names when we were pregnant with our first LO. He was a boy we used the first boy name, our 2nd LO was another boy and we used the 2nd boy name we had picked and this is the last boy name.

Brooke&Joshua+3 3 kids; Waterville, Maine 628 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting MommyToWesley:" Also, Parker is a decently common name. What if your Parker has a friend in school named Parker? Are ... [snip!] ... Are you going to tell him he can't hang out with the other Parker because you would think it's "weird"? Not much different."


well no but I'm also probably not going to be friends with this other parkers mom and we won't have play dates when their little and be calling them the same name..

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34011 posts
26th Dec '12

If she's your best friend and you tell each other more than you tell your own husbands, how is it she is just now learning about your future baby name?

*Mary Moon* 1 child; New York 3595 posts
26th Dec '12

Just so I understand, if you don't have a boy and have a girl...can she still use the name without upsetting you if she has a boy? If you both have boys I can see where it would be a little what the heck, naming them the same. But to say nope, you can't use the name Parker if I have a girl and you have a boy... is absolutely ridiculous. That to me is what sounds unfriendly. No offense. All kinds of people fall in love with the same name and pick it. Just because she is your best friend she should choose another so you can sit on that one later on? Nah. That's silly.
Eta: worded my question backwards up top and fixed it. What a clusterfug that was.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
26th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brooke&Joshua+2.5:</b>" well no but I'm also probably not going to be friends with this other parkers mom and we won't have play dates when their little and be calling them the same name.."</blockquote>




Um if your kid becomes friends with another Parker you don't think they will want to play together at each others houses? I think you need to just get over it I mean what if your friend had come up with the same name on her
Own you both kept it a secret and next thing you know two kids same name. Plus she has plenty of time to change her mind.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
26th Dec '12

I can not for the life understand why women act like they own a name.

A name is just a name.


With that said, she did ask you? So if you say no, do you really think she'd ruin your friendship over it? And if so, then shes not a good friend.
If it bothers you so much....keep the names to yourself, and tell her SHE CAN NOT name her child names you pick (cause you know...you're the boss) lol