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Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1756 posts
27th Dec '12

my husband works with 90% of women and he gets hit on every day by older and younger girls and they know he is married and has kids. I really don't care, I know my husband is good looking and plus his accent tops it off. The only way it would bug me is if he was doing shit with the girls. As long as you fully trust you DH or SO it shouldn't be a problem and shouldn't bug you at all whether they know about you or not, its not like hes out cheating and lied about it, then it would be a different story.

Kay Peezy Due October 29; 2 kids; Maryland 1991 posts
27th Dec '12
Quoting It's so Fluffayy!:" Be upset if someone hit on your man? (with you not there) and they didn't know he was in a relationship. ... [snip!] ... were surprised at my reaction, they said they would want to beat that girls ass. So what's your take? How jealous are you?"

I wouldn't care honestly. I know he's not going to cheat and I think it's a compliment unless they saw his wedding ring and then that's just skanky. lol But even then, I wouldn't care.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Kelly-Ann Louise:" It has actually happened a few times with my Fiance, I just sit there and look kind of smug, like "Yeah, ... [snip!] ... on flirt with him right in front of me. I just smile at them, rub my big pregnant belly, and let her get turned down by him."


All of what you just wrote shows jealousy. Sorry but it does. If you have to sit there looking smug and rubbing your "big pregnant belly", it says you are showing possesion.

Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 802 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Not tellin:" All of what you just wrote shows jealousy. Sorry but it does. If you have to sit there looking smug and rubbing your "big pregnant belly", it says you are showing possesion. "


Not really.
When its just some random flirting with him and I'm not there, I don't get jealous at all.
But when it's a waitress and we are just trying to have a nice dinner out and she is flirting away while I am sitting right across the table from him, that's when I get annoyed, so I just smile at her and be really polite in a bitchy way, and let her get turned down.
There is a difference between unknowing and friendly flirting, and being a trashy skank.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Kelly-Ann Louise:" Not really. When its just some random flirting with him and I'm not there, I don't get jealous at all. ... [snip!] ... way, and let her get turned down. There is a difference between unknowing and friendly flirting, and being a trashy skank."


uh huh. So you say. I don't have to sit there and look smug, flash my ring, rub a pregnant belly or any of that when another woman is paying extra attention to my husband. I don't care enough to be bothered by it. No reason for me to put forth any effort. You clearly do or you wouldn't have to show your stake in the relationship.

Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 802 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Not tellin:" uh huh. So you say. I don't have to sit there and look smug, flash my ring, rub a pregnant belly or ... [snip!] ... by it. No reason for me to put forth any effort. You clearly do or you wouldn't have to show your stake in the relationship. "


No, all I'm saying is it is rude to flirt with a man when his partner is right there with you.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Kelly-Ann Louise:" No, all I'm saying is it is rude to flirt with a man when his partner is right there with you."


While you are smugly rubbing your big pregnant belly.



Do you not see the point?



I am not saying that it is ok. However, rarely will you ever find a woman who will blatently flirt with your man and try to take him from you in an atmosphere outside a bar when she is sober. A waitress is not trying to hit on your man. Trust that she probably doesn't want him. You could get the occasional sloppy drunk in a bar that can't see past her nose to know you are right there or that you are dating ect.. If you are that worried about a girl "hitting on your man" that you feel you have to be smug, the issue lies with you not her. Make sense?



It is pretty clear that I am several years older than you. That said, this is something I learned with time. It takes a lot of time to reflect on past situations and having a bat shit crazy roomate in college sure helped teach these lessons :wink: Not that I ever personally cared that much about other girls "flirting" because there has only been one man in my life that I ever wanted to spend my life with and true love has no room for jealousy. When you honestly love someone and they honestly love you, there are no fears of another "stealing him away" or him straying. Even if it was a possibility, jealousy wouldn't stop it. The heart wants what it wants. Why add drama or allow the imagination to stir a pot that shouldn't exisit take up space in the relationship? This isn't just for you. This applies to everyone with a jealous bone. Guys have that bone as well. Oddly, girls are worse than they are. Girls are fricken PSYCHO!!!!

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
28th Dec '12

My SO is currently morbidly obese so he doesn't get a lot of attention, he's finally got doctors permission to do supervised exercise. He starts with a PT on the 12th of Jan and I hope girls start hitting on him, it'll do wonders for his self confidence.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting The Master:" My SO is currently morbidly obese so he doesn't get a lot of attention, he's finally got doctors permission ... [snip!] ... He starts with a PT on the 12th of Jan and I hope girls start hitting on him, it'll do wonders for his self confidence."

Man, that first time getting hit on after you've started to lose weight it seriously the greatest feeling ever :oops:



Good luck to him on the weight loss!

Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 802 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Not tellin:" While you are smugly rubbing your big pregnant belly. Do you not see the point? I am not saying ... [snip!] ... everyone with a jealous bone. Guys have that bone as well. Oddly, girls are worse than they are. Girls are fricken PSYCHO!!!!"


Lol at 'Girls are fricken PSYCHO!!!!' Too true :)
I've had women fly off the handle just because I commented on her boyfriends picture saying his haircut suited him, lol.
I definitely see where you are coming from.
I do get jealous when we are out together, but I have 100% faith in him and trust that he would never stray.
It just annoys me I guess that there are still women out there (like the waitresses he works with) that honestly do flirt when I'm there, and let him know that they are there when "Things with your missus don't work out."
But I think the three women who do it just don't like me..

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" Man, that first time getting hit on after you've started to lose weight it seriously the greatest feeling ever :oops: Good luck to him on the weight loss!"


Thanks

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
28th Dec '12

If she doesn't know he's in a relationship and backs off when he turns her down then what's there to be mad about? It's no different than hitting on a guy who's single, and I think we can all agree there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not insecure enough to get mad that I'm not the only woman in the world who finds my SO attractive.

N's Momma☆ 1 child; Spain 2346 posts
28th Dec '12

I'd be pissed, but hey if they didn't know then they didn't know. As long as he corrected the girl, then it's all good.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting It's so Fluffayy!:" Be upset if someone hit on your man? (with you not there) and they didn't know he was in a relationship. ... [snip!] ... were surprised at my reaction, they said they would want to beat that girls ass. So what's your take? How jealous are you?"


I would be flattered to know that my SO has a sexy ass that attracts all the womeeeennzzzz. 8)

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
28th Dec '12

I don't mind at all if it's with in appropriate bounds. BUT we were at the club and a chick full all grabbed him and made out with him. She was likely on drugs and he just pulled her off and said no thanks.



Haha funny girl, I think you missed a couple steps!