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SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" very true. I just wish he still didn't expect the same amount of sex with the way he acts."</blockquote>




Have you told him that? My husband needed to have it explained to him that even though all be needs to be in the mood is the knowledge that I am in the house, I need a bit more. I need to feel loved, desired, appreciate, helped, and understood to feel sexual. For women, sex drive tends to be linked more to emotional satisfaction than it is for men. I think if you make your husband understand that you'll be in better shape.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
27th Dec '12

There was a time where my SO did get upset quite a bit & he would say things like we are just room mates because we barely had sex ever. I mean, for months at a time we'd not do anything sexual... Looking back now I can understand his frustration, but I still don't think it's okay to make someone feel bad for something they can't control... If I could have just "sucked it up" I would have...

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting FutureMommyof2:</b>" No and thank goodness Bc that had to be the biggest turnoff ever."</blockquote>




This is so true. I couldn't get it through to my SO that the way he acted about us not having sex was the biggest turn off and to feel pressured at times, made me want it even less.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" yes he does. It further turns me off from sex. He still hasn't figured out that if he pisses me off all ... [snip!] ... is trash day. He even took the can down there but everything is still sitting in the house and he doesn't see what is wrong."</blockquote>




Ahhh... omg this was another problem we had... SO would always be like "there shouldn't be conditions on sex blah blah." It's not about conditions, it's just not easy to desire sex with someone who isn't giving you anything else emotionally or physically.

Addi's Momma Due January 23; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5299 posts
27th Dec '12
Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" very true. I just wish he still didn't expect ... [snip!] ... more to emotional satisfaction than it is for men. I think if you make your husband understand that you'll be in better shape."


Actually I have. He then cooked dinner and while we were eating said do you want to have sex yet? I think he missed the point so we need to revisit the topic.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" Actually I have. He then cooked dinner and while we were eating said do you want to have sex yet? I think he missed the point so we need to revisit the topic."</blockquote>




Yeah definitely missed the point. it's not just about the tasks he completes, it's about his motivation. If he's helping because he wants you to have less to do and because he loves you, that's a turn on. If he's helping in hopes it will lead to a blow job, it's a huge turn off.

Ashley Zernell Due March 24 (girl); Delaware 233 posts
27th Dec '12

no he doesnt get prissy or mope around or do anything like that..im normally te one who acts like that when he says no..my sex drive sky rocketed when i got pregnant and he tells me all the time if i dont slow down he won't be able to get it up by the time he is 50 lol

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
27th Dec '12

He used to when we where younger. But not in a long time. Heck...I have to tackle him sometimes :)

Addi's Momma Due January 23; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5299 posts
27th Dec '12
Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" Actually I have. He then cooked dinner and ... [snip!] ... to do and because he loves you, that's a turn on. If he's helping in hopes it will lead to a blow job, it's a huge turn off."



Exactly. Sometimes I wish guys thought like girls lol.

Mommie Dearest. Due September 17 (boy); 17 kids; Mississippi 1902 posts
27th Dec '12

My DH and I never had sex everyday, so it's never been expected.

I have a friend that's husband is like that though. They used to have sex two or three times a day. I think my vagina would just close itself up and quit if expected to do that much.

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" *please don't quote* Get pissy when you don't have sex every night?"</blockquote>



No he gets sex when ever he wants it, but he does get pissy when I want sex and he's tired..but that's what ball gags are for!

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
27th Dec '12

Nope but I'm having problems with my sexual response so we only have sex maybe once a month.

Sofie+#2 Due March 10; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7383 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dalek:</b>" Nope but I'm having problems with my sexual response so we only have sex maybe once a month."</blockquote>




I have no drive. Once we're doing it I'm fine, but it's getting in the mood to begin with.

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, OK, United States 5335 posts
27th Dec '12

I wish he did :( He doesn't really care for sex. We could go months, and have before, and he wouldn't even care. Me on the other hand, I feel like a freaking dog. I beg and beg and SOMETIMES he throws me a bone lol :lol:

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
27th Dec '12
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dalek:</b>" Nope but I'm having problems with my sexual response ... [snip!] ... a month."</blockquote> I have no drive. Once we're doing it I'm fine, but it's getting in the mood to begin with."

I can't respond sexually so I need to be the one who initiates and since I also rarely have any drive, my husband ends up screwed...figuratively speaking, at least.