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i feel kinda taken advantage of... James & John's Mommy Due August 4; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Overton, Texas 3222 posts
27th Dec '12

Okay so my friend has been staying with us for the last month or so... she has my sons room (she's only supposed to stay a couple months) and well the last few days she's had this attitude... she doesnt have a car so i take her to work (like maybe a couple miles from the house) and its like she wants me to WAIT for her and i HAVE to take her and with her foodstamps (she has two kids, one is with their father and she has her 8 month old) she said she'd help by buying groceries and she has been saying no... and i keep her 8 month old while she works because I'm out of school till the 7th and i wanted to help her out... guy im just feeling like shes taking my niceness for granted and it kinda pisses me off that i get this attitude from her as if i owe this to her... she got kicked out of her moms place so i saved her ass... like seriously...

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
27th Dec '12

I would sit down with her and explain that you do not mind helping her, that is why you took her in, but you need her to help out with groceries at least.



If having a talk doesn't help then she needs to go...

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
27th Dec '12

I wouldn't allow someone like that to live with me.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
27th Dec '12

So tell her to straighten up, cut the shit, and help you out or gtfo.

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
27th Dec '12

Kick her ass out... It doesnt sound like she is holding up her end of the deal, so she can leave.

Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys} 3 kids; Cincinnati, Oh, United States 24247 posts
27th Dec '12

i'd talk to her. tell her you dont mind taking her in but you need help in some way, groceries, part of rent, gas money, something

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
27th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" I would sit down with her and explain that you do not mind helping her, that is why you took her in, ... [snip!] ... you took her in, but you need her to help out with groceries at least. If having a talk doesn't help then she needs to go..."</blockquote>




This exactly. We invited my BIL to live with us for a few months. Turned into a yer and he never got on his feet. He worked extremely part time, and never paid us a dime. Needless to say he got the boot, and now my life is perfect!

Bunni♥ +2 18 kids; 2 angel babies; Wyltk, PA, United States 1537 posts
27th Dec '12

Talk with her, tell her how you feel and if her attitude still doesn't change say you have to go!

Silvia's Mama TTC since Jul 2013; 1 child; auburn, WA, United States 1217 posts
27th Dec '12

Doesn't sound like a "friend" and her ass would be out quicker than she could say wait.

James & John's Mommy Due August 4; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Overton, Texas 3222 posts
27th Dec '12

i just HATE feeling like im being walked all over!! im terrified to talk to her about it as if shes going to take it as if I'm just trying to be a b***h about it or chalk it up to the hormones from this pregnancy... my SO said i should talk to her though... ugh plus did i mention her boyfriend spends a couple days a week at the house and they pretty much stay off to them selves and dont even socialize with us?!

Silvia's Mama TTC since Jul 2013; 1 child; auburn, WA, United States 1217 posts
27th Dec '12
Quoting James' Mommy Anna [PSM]:" i just HATE feeling like im being walked all over!! im terrified to talk to her about it as if shes going ... [snip!] ... spends a couple days a week at the house and they pretty much stay off to them selves and dont even socialize with us?!"

Don't be terrified it's your home! If it was the other way around i bet my bottom dollar she wouldn't hesitate to speak up and tell you something