My husband just deployed! And we think I might be pregnant because of some minor issues/symptoms and etc that I posted on here. He is stressed over there, we hardly talk and when we do...I feel like he is being distant...and etc! and I am just so moody...lately. One min I am fine and then the next I turn to a b***h and I cry at the spot of a dime! Errrr. I don't like this. What is going on with my emotions? :(
With your SO being deployed, it sounds like you're going to be stressed and emotional whether you are pregnant or not.
When I was in Iraq, it was very hard to call home and see them stressed out, emotional, going through things that I couldn't help or change. My advice for you is that when he does call, try to stay as positive as possible. Make those few minutes you get to talk to him enjoyable, try to get his mind off of everything and just talk to him; not about money/finances, drama, or anything- love him; bring up good memories, bring up anything he needs and send awesome care packages. :)
Staying positive during times like this will help both of you emotionally; knowing that you are helping the time pass while he is deployed will bring you at a slight ease, I promise.
Quoting :" Thank you. I hope the next time I hear from him will be soon and better. :( I am so emotionally right now. "
I know it hurts... just hang in there; don't count down the days.. it'll take so long for him to be home if you do that. <3
Quoting :" I know. I just snapped at him. Because, he brought up issues that he wanted me to fix at with Verizon ... [snip!] ... Missing our one year anniversary and etc! Plus, might be pregnant again. Which, honestly I really do feel and think I am. ugh"
I think it bothers him that he's not there to help you and wants some type of support there for you. Things like this he shouldn't need to bring up, but obviously he is going to worry about it when he is not there. Reassurance is really important. Get on it, take care of it as fast as possible; show him that "you got this" :wink:
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. It's just verification for me that I feel like he's stressed because he wants to make sure you are being taken care of.
As I said, don't bring up stressors. If he tries, tell him that you promise you are taking care of things at home, and that the time you guys spend talking should be "our time", keep it as light and loving as possible.