It's not even that I care if he takes a nap, but I can tell he really needs one and he just won't take one. He gets up between 6 and 7 in the morning then I can tell he starts to get tired around 11-12 so I try to get him to nap with me (I work 12 hour nights, naps are required so I don't almost lose another limb) and he just fights it. Then he gets so whiney and clingy I almost can't stand him, don't get me wrong I love all my boys, but my goodness it's getting horrible! And almost every day when he doesn't take an early nap, I find him fast asleep in the strangest places (in the kitchen cupboards, under the bed in the toy/spare room, in the toy box) at 5-6 pm then he's up at 7 and won't go back to sleep until 11. Then my 5mo gets me up between 5 and 6.
I never had this problem with my 5yo at this age. When he was 2 it was bed time at 8pm, up at 8 am, and two 2-3 hour naps every day same time. Lately I've just been putting the baby gate up in the living room and letting him wreak havok, there's nothing he can get into just toys/cushions/blankets/clothes all over when I get up. Sometimes he hides the remote lol, but seriously any advice/tips on how I can get my little monster to take a nap?
We do the same thing with my 2.5yo. She goes into her room (we lock the door) and is told it is quite time she can lie down or play quietly because I need a break. She only sleeps abotu 50% of the time.
Stop letting him take naps so late. Keep him awake until bed time (8pm)
Don't call it nap time. Just the mention of those words, Jack goes INSANE.
We call it having a rest. Give him a quiet toy and book and set an egg timer for 30 minutes. Explain to him that when it gets back to 0 and goes ding, it's time to get up.
there's a lot wrong here...
DONT let him sleep at 5-6 o'clock.. that's just irresponsible, lazy parenting. keep him awake until at least 7, then put him down for an early bedtime.
also... you shouldnt be sleeping while your 2 year old is awake... i thought that was common knowledge, but guess not. i have a 2 year old boy too... i couldnt imagine sleeping and letting him run around...
take him for a drive -- turn the lights down and put on soothing music -- figure something out that relaxes him. my son will always fall asleep in my bed with a movie on.
We just make it very boring. We snuggle her with blanket, read to her, TV is off, room is darker, no toys to play with, and it's quiet. Eventually she just goes to sleep.
Do you have a nighttime routine? If so, do the same thing before naptime. Thats what worked for my oldest when she was fighting naps around the same age. Unfortunately, she stopped napping a few months ago (right before she turned three) but she sleeps for 13 hours so it works!
OP, you can't just sleep if a toddler is awake. Do you have anyone that can help so you can get some rest?
We try to keep him awake or wake him up, but once he's out he is OUT there is no waking that boy. People were seriously poking him, tugging gently at his hair, picking him up and moving him, etc on Christmas and he wouldn't get up.I never call it nap time because then my 5yo gets a look of horror on his face even though I haven't made him take naps for over a year. I pull out the futon and it's "snuggle time with mama." If his room wasn't upstairs I would be more willing to put the baby gate on his bedroom door but I don't like the idea of him being up there alone.
You leave your 2 year old, alone in another room when your sleeping??
Quoting Mumz:" You leave your 2 year old, alone in another room when your sleeping??"
No, we are. very muchso in the same room
i have a 3 yr old and a 6 almost 7 month old that wakes up at night many times still, my 3 yr old naps no more.... I never sleep wile he is awake..... I wish i could take a nap because i sure need one today.... I feel like ive been hit by a bus but i will make it.
Stop giving in to him. I always lay down with my 4 year old with a movie on and tell him no more playing, it's movie time and time to rest.
Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" i have a 3 yr old and a 6 almost 7 month old that wakes up at night many times still, my 3 yr old naps ... [snip!] ... is awake..... I wish i could take a nap because i sure need one today.... I feel like ive been hit by a bus but i will make it."
I have a infant and toddler and I'm getting a cold. I know how you feel lol. *hug and pinch to stay awake*.
And since I knew this would happen, before I get all the "you're a horrible mom posts" I'm going to break it down for you all. I work 12 hour nights running machinery. I almost lost my thumb because it got caught in a machine since I am so sleep deprived. SO works days. I get off work at 6am and he has to leave for work by 630, he doesn't get home until 4pm and I have to go back at 6pm. The only people I have for help in the area are SO's parents who are in there 70's and are still working themselves, they help me on the days that they can and I am lucky to have even that. Daycares in the area won't take my kids because of my screwed up schedule since they could be filling that day with a full time child. My child is locked in the living room WITH ME, not alone. I take more 10 minute cat naps then actual naps because every noise he makes I need to know what he's doing.
Why do you think I am asking for help? I'm exhausted and in need of advise not criticism.
ETA thanks to all the mamas who are trying to help I appreciate it!