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KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥1:" I'm single and SO is allowing me to stay at home with my son and our bun in the oven. If your name is ... [snip!] ... then it might be a bit of a fight to kwep it in a separation, but you have two of his kids so a judge might rule I y our favor."



See, i don't think jason would be a huge dick and be like, 'no, you can't have a way to transport our kids', but, it's something i think about definitely.

Moi H* 2 kids; Columbia, SC, United States 2224 posts
28th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" But things like the van, my name's on it..so if we were to separate, could i take it with me? It annoys ... [snip!] ... & me being a SAHM (no longer having to pay child support/daycare/etc) & he's by no means financially hurting. "</blockquote>



Could you clarify "your name is on it"? When you got it, did you sign the paperwork together or is your name just on the insurance.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting The Doctor:" I would say if you're nervous and you feel comfortable talking to him about it, ask if he'd feel comfortable ... [snip!] ... if he'd feel comfortable putting some money in your account each month that would be reserved for unforseen situations. Yaknow?"


oh he'd just take that as me planning to leave eventually, HA.



i just want the stuff that we have (especially since i'm the one who does the actual shopping for it) to feel like OURS.
and i think he thinks i do feel that way, but, yeah.



Like, he calls the van mine, but, it still kinda feels like i'm driving his van.

Legendary Yo Mama Due January 31 (boy); 12 kids; 724 posts
28th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" Do you have a ton in savings or something? How are you able to be a single sahm and not rely on anyone else? "</blockquote>




I did! Lol.



I've been doing this for 2 years. Right now, I'm winging it. I've been babysitting for the past couple of months.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Moi H*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" But things like the van, my name's on it..so if ... [snip!] ... you clarify "your name is on it"? When you got it, did you sign the paperwork together or is your name just on the insurance."


the registration?

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting bbbt:" Do you have a ton in savings or something? How are you able to be a single sahm and not rely on anyone else? "


not saying this is what she does, but I know a SAHM of 3 kids, who lives off her late husbands life insurance.

i also knwo 2 others who live off the system and have every form of assistance possible

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Stl mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" Do you have a ton in savings or something? How are ... [snip!] ... I did! Lol. I've been doing this for 2 years. Right now, I'm winging it. I've been babysitting for the past couple of months."


Ahh, okay, by SAHM I assumed you didn't have any income from a job coming in. Babysitting is a job.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" not saying this is what she does, but I know a SAHM of 3 kids, who lives off her late husbands life ... [snip!] ... her late husbands life insurance. i also knwo 2 others who live off the system and have every form of assistance possible"


I've been a single SAHM/student for a bit when i was younger.
My parents said they'd help support me 'n the kids as long as i was still working towards my BA, etc. ha

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting KNZ.:" oh he'd just take that as me planning to leave eventually, HA. i just want the stuff that we have (especially ... [snip!] ... he thinks i do feel that way, but, yeah. Like, he calls the van mine, but, it still kinda feels like i'm driving his van. "


Hmmm, yeah I hear you.



Maybe it's just one of those things that will take time to feel like "ours" instead of "mine" and "yours"?



I think if it really worries you it would be good to at least have a conversation about it, but maybe it will just take time and getting used to being together again. <3

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" not saying this is what she does, but I know a SAHM of 3 kids, who lives off her late husbands life ... [snip!] ... her late husbands life insurance. i also knwo 2 others who live off the system and have every form of assistance possible"


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Moi H* 2 kids; Columbia, SC, United States 2224 posts
28th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" the registration? "</blockquote>



Ok. So it's "His Name or Your Name"



That's how our cars are registered. In that case, either one could take it.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Hmmm, yeah I hear you. Maybe it's just one of those things that will take time to feel like "ours" ... [snip!] ... good to at least have a conversation about it, but maybe it will just take time and getting used to being together again. <3"


Good point, that could totally be it.
I mean, we both have no intentions of going anywhere, but, things happen, haha.
Thank you for all the advice!

Legendary Yo Mama Due January 31 (boy); 12 kids; 724 posts
28th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" not saying this is what she does, but I know a SAHM of 3 kids, who lives off her late husbands life ... [snip!] ... her late husbands life insurance. i also knwo 2 others who live off the system and have every form of assistance possible"</blockquote>




They denied me. I buy food on a credit card.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting KNZ.:" I've been a single SAHM/student for a bit when i was younger. My parents said they'd help support me 'n the kids as long as i was still working towards my BA, etc. ha"


My parents supported me while I was in college. Couldn't have done it without them.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
28th Dec '12
Quoting Moi H*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" the registration? "</blockquote> Ok. So ... [snip!] ... Ok. So it's "His Name or Your Name" That's how our cars are registered. In that case, either one could take it."


oh okay, good to know. i know nothing about this kinda stuff :oops: