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I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
29th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" The only thing stopping me is partial denial and the safety of my daughter. I need to be here for her."</blockquote>




I denied my sons father was a well we'll just say pos for over a year! My heart and head couldnt accept it. Get out now! Once your child is involved.. Uhm hell no! So sorry op

Elly.and.Kelly 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alberta 212 posts
30th Dec '12

Omg it just made me sad reading he tried to do to the baby :'( he should bw ashamed of himself ;(

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
30th Dec '12

Reading the replies, I was a little confused... I went back through and I guess I missed the part where he was grabbing at the baby! Ew. I don't know what to say. My first comment still stands that he needs to leave and get sober and STAY sober... but I am feeling you about not knowing if you could forgive that... What did you end up doing?

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
30th Dec '12

As disgusting as that is, I didn't get the impression he was trying to be sexual with the child... he was probably so drunk he didn't realize he was grabbing at him/her. That's no excuse, I'm just saying. I don't know why you didn't get out of the bed in the first place, especially since your child was there, knowing how he behaves.



I would leave and after the incident with the child, probably never look back.

brianna & lil bubba! Due August 17 (boy); 17 kids; Berlin, New Hampshire 1976 posts
30th Dec '12

a drunk mans words are a sobers mans thoughts..same goes for actions. :?

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
30th Dec '12
Quoting brianna & lil bubba!:" a drunk mans words are a sobers mans thoughts..same goes for actions. :?"

I don't agree with that statement. There's definitely a point when you're past that, and just out of your mind.

Elly.and.Kelly 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alberta 212 posts
30th Dec '12

If I was you I dont think I could ever forgive him or ever get back together. What does he have to say for himself?

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" I don't agree with that statement. There's definitely a point when you're past that, and just out of your mind."</blockquote>




Right but he had been sleeping for some time so was he really still black out drunk at that point? Was he ever to begin with?

Layla's Momma ♥ 17 kids; California 4457 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" As disgusting as that is, I didn't get the impression he was trying to be sexual with the child... he ... [snip!] ... your child was there, knowing how he behaves. I would leave and after the incident with the child, probably never look back."</blockquote>




I was thinking the same thing. The guy still needs some serious help though.

♥Jessie♥ 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 6388 posts
30th Dec '12

Does this happen only when he is drinking?



I read an article about sleep "rape" and how the individual is completely not in control and a lot of times feels severe remorse. It cannot be changed by psychiatric help. The couple in the article ended up staying together but having separate rooms to sleep in. They still had a happy relationship but didn't sleep in the same bed ever.



I would encourage him to get real help for his drinking problem though. My uncle (and family, as a matter of fact) are severe alcoholics. My father was the only one who has gotten help and changed significantly.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
30th Dec '12
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