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J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

Between check ups and shots if the doctor doesn't do them it is twelve appointments. My kids doc doesn't do shots in the office since we're on Medicaid. He sends us to the health department.

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

Hun do what you think is best for you and your daughter. I had my son at 18. I wasn't done with school and had no way of taking care of my son on my own. I lived with my mom and sister. My mom took me everywhere I needed to go for myself and for my son. While I was working or in school one of them watched him for me. His dad wasn't and after 8 years still doesn't help and it around. If it wasn't for my mom and sister I don't know what I would do. If you have friends or family who are willing to help like I had you have a good chance. If not maybe you made the right decision. Also I'd like to add even IF the dad signed over his rights he'd STILL have to pay child support. My dad thought the same thing when he signed over his rights. He had to pay child support til I was 18 and the same on my younger siblings. The father signing over rights doesn't stop child support it just allows another man to take over rights easier so he CAN get out of paying child support.

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):</b>" Between check ups and shots if the doctor doesn't do them it is twelve appointments. My kids doc doesn't do shots in the office since we're on Medicaid. He sends us to the health department."</blockquote>




Check ups for what? :S
Unless there is a concern or a baby is sick there is no need to go to a doctor that many times.
Not everyone vaccinates their children either.

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

My doc had us come in for a one week check up, one month check up, one month shots, two month check up, two month shots, four month check up, four month shots, six month check up, six month shots, nine month check up, nine month shots, twelve month check up, twelve month shots, fifteen month check up, fifteen month shots, eighteen month check up, eighteen month shots. Not counting being sick in between. He did this with both my kids. Neither of them had any issues during my pregnancy or birth. Both were full term. He did the same for my niece and both nephews.

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):</b>" My doc had us come in for a one week check up, one month check up, one month shots, two month check up, ... [snip!] ... of them had any issues during my pregnancy or birth. Both were full term. He did the same for my Bruce and both nephews."</blockquote>




With out shots it's still nine appointments.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55036 posts
30th Dec '12
Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):" Hun do what you think is best for you and your daughter. I had my son at 18. I wasn't done with school ... [snip!] ... doesn't stop child support it just allows another man to take over rights easier so he CAN get out of paying child support."



In general, signing over rights DOES mean that he doesn't owe child support. He is legally absolving himself of the responsiblity of raising a child

I don't know what happened in your case. Perhaps your mom just got full custody (which is totally different than a father giving up rights)



J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

Maybe it's different in different states. When my sisters baby daddy wanted to sign over rights he was told he'd still have to pay child support until someone else adopted my niece. That he was losing rights but not getting out of child support.

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

I was there when my dad signed over rights. The judge said he'd still have to pay support but him relinquishing his tights would allow another man to take over his rights, and once he signed over his rights he'll never get them back.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55036 posts
30th Dec '12
Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):" Maybe it's different in different states. When my sisters baby daddy wanted to sign over rights he was ... [snip!] ... have to pay child support until someone else adopted my niece. That he was losing rights but not getting out of child support."


Perhaps he just gave up custody and visitation?

Judges genreally won't allow a father to just give up rights unless there is someone there to adopt the child.

So it's likely that your neices dad just gave up custody.

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):</b>" My doc had us come in for a one week check up, one month check up, one month shots, two month check up, ... [snip!] ... of them had any issues during my pregnancy or birth. Both were full term. He did the same for my Bruce and both nephews."</blockquote>




And its all optional, not a requirement to go to wellness appointments.
I'd hate for OP to think she cannot keep her baby because she isn't able to go to a flipping wellness appointment. Or that her baby has to get vaccinated and needs to go to those appointments aswell.




OP I had my daughter at 18. I did not graduate highschool until just before I turned 21. Had a second baby while still in school, and I just graduated from a 2 year college program, I'm 23 now. Although I'm still with their father I never had any family support, they are a bunch of Yahoo's. I think anyone can be a good parent and provide for a child but its all about sacrifices, what are you willing to sacrifice to make things work?



I hope you can figure out what baby and you need. Good luck.

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

No he still gets visitation. He refused to sign over rights when they said he's still have to pay child support. The state of Illinois is twisted. My husband pays child support on his son but yet we can't see him. We've put a lot of money towards trying to but the states attorney said the boys mom never shows up. It's fine for her not to show up for court but it's not okay for my husband to. They said if he misses a court hearing he will have a warrant for his arrest, but she's allowed to.

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):</b>" My doc had us come in for a one week ... [snip!] ... what are you willing to sacrifice to make things work? I hope you can figure out what baby and you need. Good luck."</blockquote>




I never said it's required but wellness check ups are important. They make sure your child is developing on time and if something is going on that a parent doesn't know about it's easier and better to find out early. My friends never helped but my family did. You were lucky in your situation and I was in mine. It wasn't easy bit it can be done. I'm 26 and pregnant with my 3rd and married. My situation worked out for the better. I will never tell a mother to give up their child. If she feels she can do it on her own then she should be given the chance. Everyone has doubts from time to time. I hope she figures out wha she wants before it's too late.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
30th Dec '12

We go to all wellness check ups! But they also give DS his shots at those appointments. Seems like a waste to have a check up then come right back for the shots. :?

J+C+B=3 19 kids; Godfrey, Illinois 391 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" We go to all wellness check ups! But they also give DS his shots at those appointments. Seems like a waste to have a check up then come right back for the shots. :?"</blockquote>




I wish my kids doc did that. We get the check ups at his office but a nurse at the health department does their shots. We were told that since we have state paid insurance we have to go to the health department. That his doc is not a state paid doc. It's stupid. I would love to get it all done in one appt instead of driving to two different places. We have to pay out of pocket to be able to keep their doc but yet we can't get their shots done at the same visit. We can't afford to pay for their shots out of pocket or we would have their doctor do it.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
30th Dec '12
Quoting Baby #3 (14 weeks):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" We go to all wellness check ups! But they also ... [snip!] ... their shots done at the same visit. We can't afford to pay for their shots out of pocket or we would have their doctor do it."


Ah, gotcha. That does make sense actually. Sucks to have to do that though.



I think wellness check ups are very important. It may seem like they are just looking at them and letting them go. But they can notice things I wouldn't even know what to looks for. My cousin is our Pedi and I trust her medical opinion very much.