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question for single moms his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3284 posts
30th Dec '12

if you're bd left you when you were pregnant or even later..How do you do it? I have one child and one on the way and am having a hard time deciding if I want to keep it. idk how hard this is going to be if I have 2 children alone. I wonder if I'll be able to finish school like I want to, if I'll be able to provide for them the way they deserve. I don't want to be living on welfare my whole life and struggling living paycheck to paycheck.



so please anyone that has a story to share please do.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
30th Dec '12

Well I would make a pro and cons list of keeping the baby and aborting the baby.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
30th Dec '12

Before you jump to abortion, or anything for that matter weigh the pros and cons. Keeping baby, aborting, adopting out. You can do it, but it sure as hell won't be easy. Think of the baby's best interest, your li, and all of you as all whole. Do you work, have a home, etc.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
30th Dec '12

its not easy at all i have a toddler and a 4 month old. Me and my fiance broke up when i was about 6 months pregnant with my lo. When we broke up i was considering giving my lo up for adoption but than i would look at my toddler and i couldnt imagine my life without him. I couldnt imagine him being anyone elses but mine so that made me wonder how i would feel if i gave my lo up. In the end i realized that keeping him would be well worth the struggle. Having two kids by yourself will never be easy but you have to figure out whats best for you. I have always been against abortion and that wasnt an option to me but i have no right to pass judgment on anyones decision. Just before you go and make a decision think about all your choices and hose what will be the best for you

his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3284 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting mom2andrew&carter:</b>" its not easy at all i have a toddler and a 4 month old. Me and my fiance broke up when i was about 6 ... [snip!] ... on anyones decision. Just before you go and make a decision think about all your choices and hose what will be the best for you"</blockquote>




Thank you for your reply. You are so strong to do it by yourself. I never would have even considered an abortion if not for the father. he told me that it's for the best and that I'd be on welfare my entire life if I had this baby. even though I am pro-choice I've always said abortion would not be an option for me especially after having my son. but now I'm stuck and not sure what to do.



honestly as dumb as it sounds Im more scared of losing my bf than actually raising 2 kids alone. it sounds dumb because my bf is selfish and only cares about himself so I shouldn't even be concerned but for some reason I am.



if you read this all, sorry it's so long lol.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
30th Dec '12
Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mom2andrew&carter:</b>" its not easy at all i have a toddler ... [snip!] ... cares about himself so I shouldn't even be concerned but for some reason I am. if you read this all, sorry it's so long lol."


If you really wanna finish school you will be able to even with 2 kids. I have a full time job plus raise two kids basically on my own their dad sees them maybe a few hours in 4 weeks plus he doesnt pay child support or anything. I do get wic which helps alot and i also get medicaid but thats it. If you are truly against abortion and thats your last option please dont do it no man is worth the life of your baby. Just because you get an abortion does not mean he will stay with you. It is your choice and your life just do the right thing for you and your son and dont worry about what your bf says

Legendary Yo Mama Due January 31; 12 kids; 724 posts
30th Dec '12

My little ones dad told me he'd quit his job and not pay me a dime if I kept it. I subsequently lost my job/Heath ins everything. It was horrible! I had panic attacks everyday. Drove myself to the hospital and back when I had her. He screamed at me in the hospital and refused to hold her.
I can't begin to tell you how big a blessing this child has been to me. She has been a complete joy and my older daughter enjoys being a big sister. Everything in my fucked up situation suggested abortion. Sure, it would have been the easy way out but you know what? This child was put in my life for a reason and I thank god everyday that I didn't take the rational decision.
Life is ugly sometimes, but I made it work.
Hang in there!!!! Xoxoxoxox.

his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3284 posts
30th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stl mama:</b>" My little ones dad told me he'd quit his job and not pay me a dime if I kept it. I subsequently lost ... [snip!] ... everyday that I didn't take the rational decision. Life is ugly sometimes, but I made it work. Hang in there!!!! Xoxoxoxox."</blockquote>




Wow you are strong. I don't understand why men have to be such pigs. they do their part in the situation and yet can't step up and do what's right. the thing that it comes down to is I don't want to make a decision like this for him and regret it for the rest of my life.