Cast Your Vote:
- fix, forgive, and move forward -- Votes: 2
- move on -- Votes: 32
My husband and i got married earlier this year and i found out i was pregnant shortly after, the day i went into labor (i was three weeks early with complications due to stress) i found out the nite of and before he cheated on me. My son was in the nicu an hour away for respiratory problems, then i learned he cheated in me for 2 months in my last months of pregnancy. He was never around so i should have realized sooner. He never went anywhere with me or to doctors appointments and almost missed his son being born, he was on the phone when i was pushing too. Should i forgive him for the sake of our two young kids or should i move on and divorce ?
how long have you been with him? Has he changed at all?
If it were me, I'd leave. If he's willing to jeopardize your family's relationship and isn't willing to give you his attention then it's not worth it in my opinion :?
Personally, I'd move on. If you cant trust your SO, then the relationship isn't going to work. Annnnd I'd say that'd cause major trust issues :/ plus, if he didn't care enough about you to cheat on you in the first place, chances are he'll do it again
Quoting :" 2 years, and he's changed a lil but the other day i borrowed his cell and saw he had a message from someone ... [snip!] ... saw he had a message from someone else including the girl he cheated with, i called her but she acted dumb and denied anything."
...dude no. I would leave
If you want this to be the rest of your life, stay.
If you don't want to be pissed off every time you watch a romantic comedy and if you want to be able to look at happy couples without hating your life....leave and find someone who acknowledges your self worth.
If he's not willing to change (bc obviously he has not if he's still has messages from girls) or fix yalls relationship , especially being married, i would not "stick it out" for the sake of my children. I wouldn't want my children to be in that type of family environment... I was as a kid and it suuuccked
It really depends on the scenario and the details for me.
Would you be able and happy enough to keep going on with this relationship knowing that he is more than likley going to continue doing what he is doing?
If so then by all means stay.
My personal opinion is that he has already shown disrespect to you and your child enough, just by his words and actions. Someone that trys to pass off his child as someone elses is not worthy of my time nor my heart.
I have been with my husband for 5years and at first it was a rocky road(my husband and I didn't live together) we had a lot of rough spots in our marriage and I had issues just as well as he did, he couldn't keep a job and his pirorites were his friends so thur my whole pregnancy 2yrs ago it was just me thru the whole process two years ago and shortly after I cheated on him, I didn't like the guy it was just a stupid nite. living apart because we couldn't hold a house down and working and being with my son it was all too hard with the stress of moving back in with my parents just drove us apart. Anyways, I told him and he forgave me though it took us allot to forgive me and me to forgive him for choosing his friends over me etc. its been almost two years that we have actually been a family and we both had made drastic changes within our selves and towards each other. We love each other and WANT to be a family and are a family. So if you see change and you feel and know he loves you give it a chance but if he keeps hiding stuff from you and doesn't make an effort its not worth it. I know when I got back with my husband two years ago that i was basically going to be questioned allot because he wanted to know that i wasn't cheating on him and i was fine with that now we have built that trust and i know we are doing better then we have ever in 5 years. Why keep wasting your time if you don't feel happy and don't trust him, don't stay because of your kids because they don't need to be in a broken home they need to see each of their parents happy even if that means apart. we are expecting our second child and my husband has tried to be there for me more now even though he works out of town a lot he tries to make it and when he is home he makes sure we go to the doctor together. I am grateful we both changed and wanted to make this work. Good luck and make the choice for yourself, your the only that can live your life.