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how do you deal with your brother in law?? rant! Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12; 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4293 posts
31st Dec '12

I swear imy sisters husband is an ass! I have never said or done anything rude to him but he is a jerk to me. I came up to visit my family for the holiday and for the last few days i have been staying at my other sisters house with her, her husband and their daughter. Well he is so rude it makes me mad to the point i could cry out of how anger. Well first off when my sister and them were visiting me i didn't care where he sat what he drank or if he used my computer to get on the internet which was all the time. So i was a pretty good hostess. My only rule was don't have sex in my house as that was the rule they gave me. So my SO gave them the garage key and i guess they did there. But i only gave then that rule because that was the rule they gave me and SO. But here i am at there house visiting and he is not showing me anywhere near the same courtesy as i showed him. I told my niece which is his daughter by marriage to please lay straight because the previous night she was sideways and kicked me in my back all night. She is only 4 and wanted to sleep on the pull out eabedwith me. Well he presumes to tell me um Tabitha she has 2 parents already so you don't need to tell her what to do. Her foot was directly

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
31st Dec '12

You gave them a rule to follow simply because they had the same rule? That sounds a bit childish IMO. Maybe you should talk to him or your sister and find out if there is some other issue going on.

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
31st Dec '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" You gave them a rule to follow simply because they had the same rule? That sounds a bit childish IMO. Maybe you should talk to him or your sister and find out if there is some other issue going on."


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~Mommy2NuNu~ 17 kids; 福井市, Japan 1511 posts
31st Dec '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" You gave them a rule to follow simply because they had the same rule? That sounds a bit childish IMO. Maybe you should talk to him or your sister and find out if there is some other issue going on."

this!!!!!

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 5582 posts
31st Dec '12

My sisters ex husband was a complete ass. I just stopped going anywhere near him. They divorced 2 months later and now she's married to the most amazing brother in law I could ever hope for. But I actually used to just explain to my sister calmly that it was a little uncomfortable and I was going to leave but there were no hard feelings. It usually worked. I never wanted to confront him or have words with him so I didn't.

user banned California 8675 posts
31st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" You gave them a rule to follow simply because they had the same rule? That sounds a bit childish IMO. Maybe you should talk to him or your sister and find out if there is some other issue going on."</blockquote>




Thisssss!

Inc0gnitus 2 kids; Anchorage, Alaska 4325 posts
31st Dec '12

Either there is something else going on or your tone with your niece set him off. That's what I'm thinking anyways. And I don't see why you said she is only his daughter through marriage, like that means you have more right to discipline her? or? I didn't get that part, but make no mistake, he is her parent.



It feels like there is a lot of resentment going on between the two of you, I'd like to know what the backstory is before affirming to you that he is an a*****e.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
31st Dec '12
Quoting Your friendly n00berhood :" Either there is something else going on or your tone with your niece set him off. That's what I'm thinking ... [snip!] ... going on between the two of you, I'd like to know what the backstory is before affirming to you that he is an a*****e."

This. I hear a lot of well I did this this this and this for them but they havent done it for me. It sounds petty and childish from what has been put out there so far.
OP you were obviously irritated with them or at least him when they stayed with you. Maybe he picked up on that .

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12; 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4293 posts
31st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" You gave them a rule to follow simply because they had the same rule? That sounds a bit childish IMO. Maybe you should talk to him or your sister and find out if there is some other issue going on."</blockquote>




I posted more but it didn't show but basically the only reason i told then that rule is because SO said he didn't want them having sex on our couch and i nicely told then away from everyone and he seemed ok with it. And they said ok we will respect you like you did for us what about your shower and i told him to talk to my SO about it. And SO said no. All i know is he told me that i couldn't sit in his chair and he wouldn't even bring back a drink if i gave him the money to because he didn't want to carry all of the drinks. He was going to make his pregnant wife move out of her chair instead of just letting me sit in his while he showered. He is just rude to me. When he was at my house he was all nice to me because he was sleeping in my house and now he is just rude to me while i am visiting. Oh and the only reason i tried to tell my niece to lay straight is because the night before she kept kicking my back and i didn't want her to accidentally kick my stomach since i couldn't get comfortable except facing that way.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
31st Dec '12
Quoting Due *March 8th* w/ a boy!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" You gave them a rule to follow simply because ... [snip!] ... kicking my back and i didn't want her to accidentally kick my stomach since i couldn't get comfortable except facing that way."

So he didnt want you sitting in his chair. Big deal sit somewhere else I dont like people sitting in my spot either its one of weird things. As for the drinks thing its meh . If you dont like him then dont stay there. Maybe you have out worn your welcome with him. Who knows but unless you talk to him and your sister its just gonna get worse.