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lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5963 posts
1st Jan '13

Hes sharing his fears with you and you react by crying and calling it "stupid shit". Thats pretty hurtful. I doubt he's saying it to hurt you, hes worried. You should be more supportive.



Get him to come with you to an appointment.



A lot of guys feel weird rubbing a belly that doesnt have a big baby in it. I think its weird to rub a belly until you can feel the baby from the outside.

SamMarie! :) Due June 18 (girl); 32 kids; Plattsburgh, New York 1086 posts
1st Jan '13
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" Hes sharing his fears with you and you react by crying and calling it "stupid shit". Thats pretty hurtful. ... [snip!] ... a belly that doesnt have a big baby in it. I think its weird to rub a belly until you can feel the baby from the outside."


no guy should look at their fiance and tell her that she doesnt even know if the babys heart is beating, thats inconsiderate!

*Lindsey* 3 kids; Alberta 8798 posts
1st Jan '13

my husband is super excited but he never kisses my belly. he hasnt with any of my pregnancies and im totally fine with that. They can be excited without kissing and talking to my belly when i get further along he will rub or scratch it if i ask him too. i find it weird haha

Damien*Dex*Jaidyn's Momma 18 kids; Pennsylvania 1535 posts
1st Jan '13

My DH rubs my belly and I hate it. For some reason(this is our third pregnancy) I just don't want anyone near my stomach. Only person I let kiss my belly is our son because I want him to know how his little sister is doing.

*Lindsey* 3 kids; Alberta 8798 posts
1st Jan '13
Quoting Moody Momma:" My DH rubs my belly and I hate it. For some reason(this is our third pregnancy) I just don't want anyone ... [snip!] ... anyone near my stomach. Only person I let kiss my belly is our son because I want him to know how his little sister is doing."


i agree i think its weird when i see men kissing and rubbing bellys on tv...i know some woman prob like it but i wouldnt and i dont need him doing that to know that he excited for baby. He shares his excitement in words lol

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5963 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting SamMarie! :):</b>" no guy should look at their fiance and tell her that she doesnt even know if the babys heart is beating, thats inconsiderate!"</blockquote>



I dont think so. Its a fear he has and was looking for support from you. You're not the only one who worries about the baby. You're supposed to be in this together.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6540 posts
1st Jan '13
Quoting SamMarie! :):" no guy should look at their fiance and tell her that she doesnt even know if the babys heart is beating, thats inconsiderate!"


I really don't think he was trying to hurt your feelings. He was just voicing what he was thinking. Was it hard to hear? I bet it was, but I can also remember thinking and feeling that same way. If you want him to share how he is feeling with you, you have to listen to what he's saying even if it's not what you want to hear. He sounds nervous and unsure if this baby is going to stick around. You're the person who is suppose to deal with this stuff with him. You're his partner, the person he feels closest too and is sharing how vulnerable he's feeling. That's heavy duty stuff.

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7198 posts
1st Jan '13

After your ultrasound he will feel a lot better and you should see a change in behavior.
My fiance became way more atta ched after the 14 week 3 day ultrasound we had.
Now he kisses and talks to my belly. and he loves the ultrasounds now.
He probably had high hopes last time you were pregnant just to have them dashed by the M/C. I think he is just scared to get too attached this time until he actually sees there is life there.
Feel free to call or text me if you wanna talk about baby stuff or need support.