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lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" I've tried to much in this marriage.... for two years. I cleaned up after him, I was there for him when ... [snip!] ... I'm going to tell him, it's me and his son, or it's her. And if things don't change, we're leaving... Thanks ladies....."</blockquote>



Good. Make him talk to you. He can't keep him hawing around. He needs to make up his mind. He can't play games like this.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" thank you. <3 will definitely let you guys know... I see us moving out. been going on for about a month now."</blockquote>



Please keep us updated and let us know of there's anything we can do mama. I would talk to a lawyer or something about leaving the country.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18566 posts
1st Jan '13
Quoting Mason'sMommy;:" Do we have a what?"


A lot of morning radio shows here have something called War of the Roses, where they call your SO (pretending to be a flower company..), offer him a free dozen long stemmed red roses and tell him they are free and he can send them to anyone he wants, anywhere in the world. All they need is what he wants to write on the card they attach to it. You listen in on the other line until he says what he wants on the card....The guy falls for it every time!



http://johnjayandrich.krq.com/player/?art=War+of+the+Roses&tra=War+of+the+Roses+-+December+20th&omu=http://media.ccomrcdn.com/media/station_content/163/WAR_OF_THE_ROSES_12-20-12_1356022819_23864.mp3

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" Do you have War of the Roses there??"</blockquote>



I always thought we only did that here on our local radio station! I always feel so incredibly bad for those who find out a partner is cheating. And from wht I've gathered, they usually regret ever calling in.

sillygirltracyb_caius1222 4 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 614 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HamHam:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" Do you have War of the Roses there??"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... incredibly bad for those who find out a partner is cheating. And from wht I've gathered, they usually regret ever calling in."</blockquote>




My husband denied it to me.. denied it to our pastors. Denied it by saying he would never cheat he would just leave. I listened for two years believing that . I finally called the girls and they told me that he said we were separated and getting divorced. They both admitted having sex w him.. and told me a lot of lies he told them. Everything your husband is doing.. mine did. Picking fights over stuff , locking his ohone, texting all night, leaving me at home for important things, etc.



Chances are she wont admit it. I had 2 admit it and a couple tell me steaight out they didn't care he was married, didnt care he was lying and that they were gonna continue talking to him as long as he continued calling. In your situation he may be telling her that you are crazy and will keep your child from him. All kinds of bs.. I have heard it all..

BrandiReed 1 child; Missouri 1163 posts
1st Jan '13

To me, emotiona cheating is far worse than physical ever could be

sillygirltracyb_caius1222 4 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 614 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BrandiReed:</b>" To me, emotiona cheating is far worse than physical ever could be"</blockquote>




I think eventually emotional will lead to physical and vice versa.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
1st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" A lot of morning radio shows here have something called War of the Roses, where they call your SO (pretending ... [snip!] ... A lot of morning radio shows here have something called War of the Roses, where they call your SO (pretending to be a flower company..), offer him a free dozen long stemmed red roses and tell him they are free and he can send them to anyone he wants, anywhere in the world. All they need is what he wants to write on the card they attach to it. You listen in on the other line until he says what he wants on the card....The guy falls for it every time! http://johnjayandrich.krq.com/player/?art=War+of+the+Roses&tra=War+of+the+Roses+-+December+20th&omu=http://media.ccomrcdn.com/media/station_content/163/WAR_OF_THE_ROSES_12-20-12_1356022819_23864.mp3"</blockquote>

I listen to that every morning. It really does work but I Always feel bad for the girl

Mason'sMommy;Expecting Due July 26; 1 child; Weare, NH, United States 1256 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting sillygirltracyb_caius1222:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrandiReed:</b>" To me, emotiona cheating is far worse than ... [snip!] ... worse than physical ever could be"</blockquote> I think eventually emotional will lead to physical and vice versa."


My worry.

Mason'sMommy;Expecting Due July 26; 1 child; Weare, NH, United States 1256 posts
2nd Jan '13

He still refuses to talk.
So he is looking for an apartment, he's leaving by himself.
I'm not going with him...

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
2nd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" He still refuses to talk. So he is looking for an apartment, he's leaving by himself. I'm not going with him..."</blockquote>




I can't believe he is choosing this :( I'm so sorry. Where r u guys living now?

✰ Mrs. B ✰ 2 kids; Texas 2640 posts
2nd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" He still refuses to talk. So he is looking for an apartment, he's leaving by himself. I'm not going with him..."</blockquote>



Wow, and what is his reasoning behind that? Seems like he just wants to be able to do what he wants without you knowing perhaps? No matter his reason, it's just wrong to do his family like that & to continue to not face talking about it...well, ignoring the issues & not talking about them just shows he's a coward who doesn't deserve a relationship period. I'm sorry you're experiencing this & really wish things had gone better at this point and I'm still hoping things turn around for the better for you guys.

Mason'sMommy;Expecting Due July 26; 1 child; Weare, NH, United States 1256 posts
2nd Jan '13

He came clean..
Told me everything.
I want to be done, but I love him...
I'm just so hurt. I could barely type this.
He says he doesn't want to hurt me, and that he loves me... :'(
Omg I'm so hurt



Idk how to cope with this.
I gave him everything. I still love him. I still want us to be a family through all of this

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
2nd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" He came clean.. Told me everything. I want to be done, but I love him... I'm just so hurt. I could barely ... [snip!] ... so hurt Idk how to cope with this. I gave him everything. I still love him. I still want us to be a family through all of this"</blockquote>



So does he want to try to work it out? Or is he still just gona run away with his tail between his legs?!



If you want it to work don't give up mama. I know it's hard. Did he say if he cheated physically or just emotionally? Does he want to be with this girl or his family?

Mason'sMommy;Expecting Due July 26; 1 child; Weare, NH, United States 1256 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" He came clean.. Told me everything. I want ... [snip!] ... I know it's hard. Did he say if he cheated physically or just emotionally? Does he want to be with this girl or his family?"


He says he still loves me and wants us both.
He hasn't slept with her, but he kissed her..
I'm not giving up.. I want my family...