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I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
2nd Jan '13

I would be livid if so did this, my sons doner did it all the time. Put your foot down, just because he works doesn't make him anyless her parent than you staying home makes you any more. And she is probably biting because she feels you're frustration. Try calming down foe tonight, get it over with, am tomorrow have a huge talk with dh. So sorry momma. I know the feeling.

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8930 posts
2nd Jan '13

She fell asleep on the b**b and now shes sleeping soundly in her cot. Thank f**k now I get a break lol

Loretta West [+1] Due March 25; TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 5806 posts
status 2nd Jan '13

Sounds like she's not a happy camper. L does stuff like that when he's got gas or is in pain for some reason, intense suckling and gumming (since he can't bite yet). Is she not well? Or just being a poop?
That's not cool hun. I reckon you should wait til he gets home, take the car keys, and tell him you're having some "you" time. And then you and L should come stay with me :D

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
2nd Jan '13

Hurray for b**b!

Loretta West [+1] Due March 25; TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 5806 posts
status 2nd Jan '13

Also - If M was away from home for days, I'd kick his ass out. But then i'm paranoid and would think he was sleeping with someone else :? But it's still not cool, once and a while, yeah okay, but for days on end? Didn't he/isn't he doing a hike or something recently/soon?

Father of One 1 child; New Zealand 103 posts
2nd Jan '13

I wouldn't put up with it.



Imo, it takes the 2 of you to make a baby, so the 2 of you should raise the baby.



He needs to realize that yeah he has a job, but you also have a job during the day raising your child. And when the work day is over, the looking after the children should be shared.



By all means have a night out every now and then, but a few nights in a row.....nope. Makes me think that there is something else involved.

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16777 posts
2nd Jan '13

Suggest a my night your night thing.



Maybe that will help.. Thays what so and I do. One night ill go out, wether its shopping, to the bar or to bingo and then he goes out. And so jsnt,even dd father. I would seriously kick his ass even if we didnt have a kid. A few days isnt what you do in a marriage unless ges out,camping or something.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
2nd Jan '13

He is always doing stuff like this.... Have you considered starting to wean LO at least during the day and maybe working part time? You be surprised how nice it is to go to work, speak with adults, have a lunch and toilet break, complete a task that you don't HAVE to do and get paid

Loretta West [+1] Due March 25; TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 5806 posts
status 2nd Jan '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" He is always doing stuff like this.... Have you considered starting to wean LO at least during the day ... [snip!] ... it is to go to work, speak with adults, have a lunch and toilet break, complete a task that you don't HAVE to do and get paid"

Then she has to wean before she wants to coz SO is a douchebag. Not ideal :(

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8930 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting Lucas'Mama:" Sounds like she's not a happy camper. L does stuff like that when he's got gas or is in pain for some ... [snip!] ... til he gets home, take the car keys, and tell him you're having some "you" time. And then you and L should come stay with me :D"

I dont think theres anything wrong with her, she doesnt have a fever, she could be teething though. And to make matters worse she jammed her fingers in the draw in the kitchen, I really need to get some safety latches for those. So she was really upset about that, my poor baby.



I so wish me and L could come stay with you! I would love to get away for a bit. And yeah he was supposed to go on a hike, they all went to taupo yesterday then when they got there the place said they couldnt take any hikers for about a week because of strong winds or something, so they just stayed there for a bit then drove back, they got home around 1am so SO was "too tired" to help me with LO thismorning, now he's gone drinking with his buddies.

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8930 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" He is always doing stuff like this.... Have you considered starting to wean LO at least during the day ... [snip!] ... it is to go to work, speak with adults, have a lunch and toilet break, complete a task that you don't HAVE to do and get paid"

Im going back to nursing school in feb, I cant wait. It will be nice to get back into it.

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8930 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting Tony and Son:" I wouldn't put up with it. Imo, it takes the 2 of you to make a baby, so the 2 of you should raise the ... [snip!] ... have a night out every now and then, but a few nights in a row.....nope. Makes me think that there is something else involved."

I hope not :(

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8930 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting Whoahbabyy:" Suggest a my night your night thing. Maybe that will help.. Thays what so and I do. One night ill go ... [snip!] ... kick his ass even if we didnt have a kid. A few days isnt what you do in a marriage unless ges out,camping or something."

I have suggested that but he wont go for it.

Father of One 1 child; New Zealand 103 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting Elliot Reid:" I hope not :("


Me too.

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8930 posts
2nd Jan '13
Quoting Lucas'Mama:" Then she has to wean before she wants to coz SO is a douchebag. Not ideal :("

I will be sad if we have to give up breastfeeding before she is totally ready :(