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no one understands me posts
3rd Jan '13

how do you get over obsessions?
i dont think i ever will and they will always haunt me.
i go to therapy and it doesnt help
my sister told me to make friends on this site but people are being mean to me.
i have autism.
what sites should i go on to make friends?

Shibby. 2 kids; Mississippi 8169 posts
3rd Jan '13

cafemom.com

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
3rd Jan '13

What are you obsessed with? And to find friends, I guess you need to find mommy and me groups in your area. You can find great friends on here.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5798 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Shibby.:" cafemom.com"

:!:
Most women on here are actually nice and helpful, but if you're not cut out for this site, try cafemom.

Ellie Goulding 1 child; London, --, United Kingdom 4661 posts
3rd Jan '13

lol

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Jan '13

Idk why people would be mean to you about that :shock: theres plenty of mamas on here who deal with autism either with a child spouse friend or relative. They are always more than willing to help.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13

What type of obsessions are you talking about? My cousin is Autistic, but I don't see him often because he lives in a different state. If you need someone to talk to feel free to pm me :)

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11930 posts
status 3rd Jan '13

Most people aren't mean on this site. I mostly only see when OP who get defensive, call all of the site mean, and so forth. I would suggest meetup.com to find a group. I also don't recommend using your Autism as a crutch, just be yourself and remember online tone is difficult to interpret.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting :" I dont have kids. i think thats why they are mean to me on here. but i have niece named chloe and i like ... [snip!] ... that im stalking them by getting their phone number and looking up their facebooks but some people on here told me to do that."


Why can't you ever have children? And who are the people? Like are they his friends or other girls he was talking to while with you? Sometimes you just need to let go..I know, easier said than done.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting :" i have autism. im a virgin because im so deathly afraid of sex. i have rheumatoid arthritis and can ... [snip!] ... arthritis and can hardly walk, and im 29 and on medication that causes birth defects up to 10 years after stopping it."


I'm sorry :( ....I couldn't even imagine. It is amazing to be an aunt though!

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18806 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting :</b>" I dont have kids. i think thats why they are mean to me on here. but i have niece named chloe and i like ... [snip!] ... that im stalking them by getting their phone number and looking up their facebooks but some people on here told me to do that."</blockquote>




Why would you want to be friends with people who don't want to be friends with you?



And you should probably be careful about how much digging you do with people you are "obsessed with", your sister may be right.



Do you have hobbies? My cousin is autistic, and he loves drawing ninja cartoons. He posts his stuff on deviantart. I know he has a really hard time relating with people and making friends. Just know that you can't force people to like you, but if you are happy with yourself and are kind and genuine, people who are worth your time will be your friends.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting :" my ex boyfriend might of liked the girls he talked about , but they were all couples. tanner and reena, ... [snip!] ... with him and made fun of him secretly. i didnt even have fake friends through highschool so i think maybe thats why im obsessed"


Yeah I could see how that works. Do they try talking to you or anything? Have you tried finding new friends at all?

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting :</b>" I dont have kids. i think thats why they are mean to ... [snip!] ... to like you, but if you are happy with yourself and are kind and genuine, people who are worth your time will be your friends."


:!::!:

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting :</b>" I dont have kids. i think thats why they are mean to me on here. but i have niece named chloe and i like ... [snip!] ... that im stalking them by getting their phone number and looking up their facebooks but some people on here told me to do that."</blockquote>



Lots of people on here don't have kids. I think you may be misinterpreting what people say on the net. Are you on any meds for compulsion?

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting :" my sister helped me make two friends but they seem like they are always busy. i want a best friend i can confide in all the time, but my sister said that takes time "


It does take time! And I think the more you "push" it the harder it becomes. Just let it happen if you can. Once trust and all that starts to kick in, then the friendship will become stronger.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 15946 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting :" no i want them to tell me they dont want to be my friends. but they dont. they give me mixed signals ... [snip!] ... they give me mixed signals so im confused. i think they are nice but everyone tells me that they dont want to hurt my feelings."


Just ask them! And if they say no then thank them for being honest and then try to move on. You definitely don't want to be friends with someone who is just trying to be nice and afraid to hurt your feelings because then it will never be a true friendship.