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tooodles 240 kids; Thailand 5075 posts
3rd Jan '13

Hell no they shouldn't give people a heads up. If you really need to clean up and change your daily routine because dcf is coming then you got a problem.right there. I'm sure dcf doesn't expect the house to be spotless etc so its not like you have nothing to worry about unless they are being neglectful or abusive.

Damien*Dex*Jaidyn's Momma 18 kids; Pennsylvania 1535 posts
3rd Jan '13

No they shouldn't let the parents know. I had CYS called on me because I owed a friend like 20 bucks. He was a total a*****e and has called cops on other people for stupid shit. He gave them the wrong address and they kept coming out and leaving a letter on the door of my neighbor. They finally got my phone number and called. But when I called CYS on my cousin in law, they would call every time so she would clean the house and clean the kids. It was to the point where the 2 yr old was eating dog food because she wouldn't cook him. I even saw him taking his 11 month old brothers bottle because he was so hungry. When I called and complained they said that they don't have enough funding and gave me a bunch of excuses. I called bullshit and told them that if the kids died I hope they can live with that for the rest of their lives.

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
3rd Jan '13

Like you said if they are pre warned they have time to clean and make everything look normal. If they get a surprise visit they get taken by surprise and don't have time to clean and so on.



They need to stop warning cause if you have nothing to hide you shouldn't be worried about them showing up at your door.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
3rd Jan '13

I don't think they should ever let the parents know when they are coming. As you said, if there is nothing to hide, then the parents have absolutely nothing to worry about.



Who cares if the parents are blind-sided? If they aren't doing anything wrong, there still isn't a worry. It's pretty easy to tell the different between a messy house because of multiple kids, and a filthy, unhealthy living environment.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
3rd Jan '13

Nope they shouldn't & they don't here. I am pretty sure they just randomly show up on your door step here.

MOMBiE; Chloe's Mama~ 1 child; Spencer, Massachusetts 11831 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Unique Mama:" It's kind of hard because each case is different..those people should NOT have had any warning because ... [snip!] ... for a glass of water and try to snap some pictures when she's out of the room. Any evidence or proof you can get would be ideal"

Thats a good idea, last time i was over there it was so nasty.
LOs godmother saw the 1 yr old last night and she said he was so dirty that when he came to her for a hug she just couldnt do it...
i mean dirty or not those kids need love and i would of done it but to think someone said a child was that dirty just ------ speechless!

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" I don't know, maybe warn first time "offenders", then make it known that surprise visits may occur if they re called again. Obviously if they are called a dozen times, something is probably up."

This. I can see warning first timers. What if they show up and you have a house full of guests, or no one is home? However if they get called again, a surprise visit may be in order. I have absolutely nothing to hide, but I would be really upset if someone showed up at my home without warning and I was, say, sleeping or having sex with my boyfriend, or my cranky ass great-grandma was visiting for the first time in 5 years.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
3rd Jan '13

There is a difference between a messy/lived in house... and walking over feces and garbage on the floor. I'm sure most people's homes are messy, but the ones who live in filth.... social services NEEDS to see that.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" There is a difference between a messy/lived in house... and walking over feces and garbage on the floor. ... [snip!] ... on the floor. I'm sure most people's homes are messy, but the ones who live in filth.... social services NEEDS to see that."

I agree. That is just wrong.

Reise's Mommy 2 kids; Kentucky 1722 posts
3rd Jan '13

No, I don't think they should be warned. If you randomly show up at my house you are going to find toys strewn EVERY WHERE, probably some dirty laundry in the hampers, and a pile of clean laundry that still needs to be folded on top of the dryer, maybe some muddy paw prints at the back door, but while my child may not be dressed because he's decided recently all of his clothes are optional he is clean, and fed and happy. I think they should be able to tell the difference between a home that's messy because a child is playing all day long and a home that is dirty.

~Mommyof3girls1boy~ Due October 5 (boy); 3 kids; Ohio 2686 posts
3rd Jan '13

There should absolutely NOT be any warnings given, no matter what the reasoning is behind people calling. Surprise visits are what catches them. Just like income based housing should not give notice for when they're inspecting apartments, especially when tenants aren't paying a dime for rent. Just my opinion though.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
3rd Jan '13

It might be a good idea to have them call like 5-10 minutes before they show up. That way, there isn't enough time to clean a filthy house but there is enough time for guests to leave if you have them over, or to put pants on if you're like me and prefer to be pantless.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Faith1LovesMLP:" It might be a good idea to have them call like 5-10 minutes before they show up. That way, there isn't ... [snip!] ... there is enough time for guests to leave if you have them over, or to put pants on if you're like me and prefer to be pantless."


That's a good idea.

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
3rd Jan '13

i think that it should be a case by case basis. the first time you have DCF called on u, and then any subsequent calls that are recieved, DCF should only tell the family that some one will be over.... that way, its warning that they will be visiting but not when, so it would still be somewhat suprise visit

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
3rd Jan '13

Here they don't notify you before you come. Also when douche called them on me a 2nd time saying I abuse and neglect the kids (which by no means do I do) they said letting the kids eat at their little table in the living room is neglect. Like really?