Quoting Marissa- 38 weeks +4:" well my mom and bf will be the only people in the room. they'll both be up close to my head though lol, ... [snip!] ... though lol, so it's probably a lot less noticable. if i do, i hope they clean up quick. do they just change the sheets, or?"
When you're birthing the bed drops down and your ass is literally hanging off the edge. The "after birth" and all that falls into a collection bucket down below. So I assume a turd will go there too, lol. That's how it was for me anyway.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Marissa- 38 weeks +4:</b>" well my mom and bf will be the only people in the room. they'll both be up close to my head though lol, ... [snip!] ... though lol, so it's probably a lot less noticable. if i do, i hope they clean up quick. do they just change the sheets, or?"</blockquote>
Theend of the bed detaches so your butt is right on the edge and they Attach a bag right underneath your rear to catch all the stuff coming out (its a lot more than just a baby lol). The poop falls right in there. And for me the nurse was holding a towel between my anus and vagina wiping I DH gave me perineal messag she was wiping it away as it came out. It was all very clean and discreet.
ETA: you'll know what I'm talking about soon enough but once your read to pushy, if the nurses asked you to stop so they could change the sheets, the doctor would be dealing with a woman in labor and a nurse with a bloody nose at the same time
If.there are veiwers the nurse will hold a towel to your b******e and catch the poop. No one will see it and no one will no what is going on most likely.
To my knowledge i didn't poop with my first baby or 2nd. My 3rd(vbac) I pooped and I told the nurse. She cleaned it up and just changed a few of those huge gigantic water proof sheet things. I did end up with an enema after I had my 2nd baby because the c-section made me very constipated.
I pooped, didnt know till after and my mum told me. Its common so I wouldnt worry about it. They clean it up straight away and theres so much more going on your dont even realise you have pooped (if you do) :D
Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Marissa- 38 weeks +4:</b>" well my mom and bf will be the only ... [snip!] ... they could change the sheets, the doctor would be dealing with a woman in labor and a nurse with a bloody nose at the same time"
i had no idea about the bottom of the bed detaching lol. and i had no idea about the bag thing either. i thought you layed completely on the bed and poo'ed, then they cleaned it up afterwards hahaha. it won't be noticeable then.
i feel a lot less nervous now since i'm aware. thank you!
They didn't mention it when I did it but I could tell because it didn't smell like roses, KWIM? However I am pleased to say that while it gave me a great deal of anxiety leading up to birth, when those contractions were hitting, I didn't give a pilgrims carbuncle whether or not I shit on everyone in the room. Baby out. That's all I thought.
My husband knew of the possibility of poo before we went to the hospital, I made sure to educate him. And I even did the home enema thing (which was actually very helpful because when I went into labor, I was also going to the bathroom A LOT naturally -- this cut down on my potty trips!) before going to the hospital. I gave birth the next day and STILL dropped a deuce.
Also be aware that even if your family are up by your head, if they stand or even turn their head, they may see a lot more than you want them to. This was the case with my husband although he is 6'4".
I read the baby-gaga sidebar that talked about a lady pooping on her infant's feet and telling everyone the baby did it (because that's what her husband told her to keep her from being embarrassed). I made the comment that if I pooped on our daughter's feet it would be just payback for all the kicking, heartburn etc. However when I was getting sewn up, I looked over at one of my feet in the stirrups. I'd pooped on my OWN feet, how the hell did that happen?!?!? Karma I guess! I'm not embarrassed in the slightest now.
Quoting TrollMama:" They didn't mention it when I did it but I could tell because it didn't smell like roses, KWIM? However ... [snip!] ... stirrups. I'd pooped on my OWN feet, how the hell did that happen?!?!? Karma I guess! I'm not embarrassed in the slightest now."
i get embarrassed so easy, but i guess when you're having very painful contractions, you could care less on that, and just want the baby out. well.. where do most people stand? lol
I assume they stand at the head like my husband. Bring folding chairs? The room I labored in had a recliner but it was in full view of the vag and I ordered DH out of it haha. I'd just tell your BF about the possibility of poo, that you are really upset by it but that it's normal and there's nothing you can do. The muscles you poo with are the muscles you birth with. Explain that he is the lucky one here, not having to poop a baby, and he needs to shut his trap if it occurs. Just try to accept it. It was really hard for me and I was super paranoid about it but my husband understanding the process and also knowing that the nurses and docs see it all the time really helped me get over it once I got to the pushing. Good luck, mama!
Quoting TrollMama:" I assume they stand at the head like my husband. Bring folding chairs? The room I labored in had a recliner ... [snip!] ... knowing that the nurses and docs see it all the time really helped me get over it once I got to the pushing. Good luck, mama!"
he says he's done his "research" on pregnancy, so i'm assuming he's read something about it. it sounds mean, and dumb, but i wish my mom was the only one in the room lol because i hate people being around me when i'm in pain. it somehow annoys me when they try and comfort me.
thank you!! :)
Judging by most of the men's reactions I've seen (and I've seen a few serious A-holes), you either have some men that are in utter awe during birth and just think it's so amazing, or the ones that can't watch because it's too traumatic. My Husband and I have absolutely no shame and already shit, piss, fart, and puke in front of each other--you name it! EVERYTHING that has happened to our bodies in the past 6 years has been shared, talked about, and on full display for each other. But, I still have no idea how he will really act when the time comes, I feel like birth is something that is so different from everything else. I think that if it's too gross or freaks them out too much (I think they get freaked out way before grossed out) they won't watch and will turn away and focus on your face. I haven't heard of any man who watched a woman poo while giving birth to their child and actually walk away feeling weird about their SO after. If anything, it seems like they usually just really admire you for all that you just went through.
Even if you do poo with pushing, maybe you will feel a sense of relief from then on. The reason my husband and I share everything is because of the comfort of not having to hide anything at all while we are together. Consequently, I feel like we are extremely comfortable with one another and can spend infinite amounts of time together since we never need to go run away to take care of our bodies. That was something that was always important to me in a relationship--though I know it's not for everyone. Also, realistically, if you end up staying together until youre old chances are you both will poo and God only knows what else in front of each other eventually--especially once you are very old! Then everyone is cleaning up your poo!
Quoting Marissa- 38 weeks +4:" i get embarrassed so easy, but i guess when you're having very painful contractions, you could care less on that, and just want the baby out. well.. where do most people stand? lol"
My Husband held one leg and my Mom held the other and they were both at my head but when you're pushing your legs are literally on your chest. So there really isn't much hiding that area so don't have anyone in the room who you don't mind seeing you and all your glory.
Also, yes the pain is so bad you do not care what happens at the time. True story. Although I remember feeling like you when I didn't know any better either. Just rest assure that what everyone is saying is right :)
The last thing you will care about while you are pushing is whether or not you pooped.
I will be squatting to have my baby due to his possible large size. I want all the room I can get to make sure he does not get stuck. I will be induced next week for GD if I do not go on my own between now and this weekend. I am going to try the enema. I have had them before and they didn't bother me nor did I crap myself uncontrollably. Once I was cleaned out it was done. I don't even recall having pain, it actually relieved the pain I had from being so constipated. I also am doing one because I have been eating a ton of cheese due to GD and that is all I really feel like snacking on lol I will let you know if it helped get labor going or just cleaned me out good :D I would be more concerned doing it in Early labor rather then the end. I do honestly care about being jam packed during labor because of the chance my little boy becomes stuck and I have to get another C. **** EDIT to say Early pregnancy not early labor. Haha, my mind is preoccupied with labor *****