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Not sure what to do... Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
3rd Jan '13

I've been with SO for about 3 years now, 2 of them living together. I've stumbled upon p**n on his computer before of HUGE goth chicks (I'm 250 so that's saying something)
He has also made comments before about cute goth chicks :-\ Part of me wants to make a point to be more gothy and do my makeup more goth for him, but part of me doesnt want to cater to his bullshit..I haven't been goth since I was a teenager :-S
I'm really torn over this and it probably seems stupid but I want him to be happy with what he f**king has, not need to look at other shit if I can help it :-S

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23061 posts
3rd Jan '13

I would never change myself because of a man. He may have p**n of goth women but he is with YOU. Obviously he loves you. I'm sorry :(

Momma +2 Girls 2 kids; Indiana 3612 posts
3rd Jan '13

Maybe he just needs a little kink? Some role playing in the bedroom?



Im not condoning his behavior at all, just saying...

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
3rd Jan '13

Just because he's attracted to that doesn't mean he's not attracted to you the way you are.



Mine likes super fit, 0% body fat, see every muscle kind of women. I'm thin and in shape but I'm not that, he thinks I'm damn sexy anyway. :)

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6008 posts
3rd Jan '13

Dress up goth to turn him on once in a while, but dont do it permanently

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" I've been with SO for about 3 years now, 2 of them living together. I've stumbled upon p**n on his computer ... [snip!] ... probably seems stupid but I want him to be happy with what he f**king has, not need to look at other shit if I can help it :-S"</blockquote>




Maybe he just has a fetish.have you talked to him about it? I wouldny change myself but dressing up for a little fun every now and then never hurt anyone,kwim?

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19517 posts
status 3rd Jan '13

My husband likes p**n with blond chicks swallowing monster black c***s. Lol.



I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home.



Just be you!

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes p**n with blond chicks swallowing monster black c***s. Lol. I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home. Just be you!"</blockquote>




This response is awesome!

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
3rd Jan '13

H<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes p**n with blond chicks swallowing monster black c***s. Lol. I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home. Just be you!"</blockquote>



Omg. :lol: :lol:

Momma +2 Girls 2 kids; Indiana 3612 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes p**n with blond chicks swallowing monster black c***s. Lol. I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home. Just be you!"</blockquote>




Lol!!!



I think its funny when DH is trying to decide what p**n to watch/buy cuz I can tell he holds back, like he thinks ill be offended if he picks one that the girls are the complete opposite of me. I couldnt care less. Haha. Its just a movie.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19517 posts
status 3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma +2 Girls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes p**n with blond chicks swallowing ... [snip!] ... ill be offended if he picks one that the girls are the complete opposite of me. I couldnt care less. Haha. Its just a movie."</blockquote>




When we first started dating, he said "ok, you curious what kind of p**n I like? It's not a secret. I'm a guy. It's on my computer. Its on such and such drive, yada yada, in the folder in all caps labeled "p**n". I like blondes giving head mostly. Any questions?"




Lol. He is an open book. :D

Momma +2 Girls 2 kids; Indiana 3612 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Momma +2 Girls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting pilot ... [snip!] ... in the folder in all caps labeled "p**n". I like blondes giving head mostly. Any questions?" Lol. He is an open book. :D"



Lol!! That's good!!

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
3rd Jan '13

he is crap in the bedroom and very boring..occasionally I try new stuff but he never wants to repeat it lol



I did myself up once super goth for him..and the entire time I hated it and felt like such a f**king fraud and a fake :-S Just hate being conflicted. I know you are all totally right about it because the p**n I watch is def not something I ever want made into a reality but I have serious self esteem and insecurity problems I'm sure it's all related to that and I have no way to control that till I can get this kid out and get on some drugs from the doc hopefully lol



I have a friend who lives in another state, she has a lot of health issues and her family won't help her. I wanted her to move in with us at a time, but she's super goth and kind of slutty so now I'm dead set against ever having her in my house and i feel like an a*****e for it even if i havent said it out loud to either of them.:cry:

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23061 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" he is crap in the bedroom and very boring..occasionally I try new stuff but he never wants to repeat ... [snip!] ... against ever having her in my house and i feel like an a*****e for it even if i havent said it out loud to either of them.:cry:"</blockquote>




I'm sorry. If I were you I couldn't let a friend come stay with me regardless of if she's goth or what she is. I'm just a firm believer of only my family staying in my house.

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
3rd Jan '13

I have a serious weakness and impulse to help everyone and anyone, especially friends I care about...It's almost a problem because I have given to people in need when I needed stuff myself just because that's the way I am lol