Cast Your Vote:
- I WOULD try and stick it out for the kids -- Votes: 16
- I WOULDN'T stay together just for the kids -- Votes: 54
- It would depend on... (comment) -- Votes: 7
If you were unhappy with your marriage, would you try staying together anyway just for the kids sake?
If it would depend on something, what would it depend on? The degree of unhappiness? The kids' age? Etc.
(and for my friends, yes, I know exactly what you're thinking, so think objectively)
If the only thing keeping me in a relationship is the kids its time to walk away. If things could be worked on and both parties are willing I would try everything I could to save my marriage kids or no kids. But once its done its done. I dont believe kids benefit at all when they have to miserable married parents. Much healthier to have two happily divorced parents.
You know what I am thinking
and I would NOT stay together for the kids. EVER
Never in a million years would I stick out for them. It would cause more harm then it would to split up.
I think it would depend on if we were also trying to work on our relationship while staying together for the kids. If that wasn't going to happen I would not stick it out. Or if it was not a we can work on it problem like cheating it would be over for me at that point.
Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" If you were unhappy with your marriage, would you try staying together anyway just for the kids sake? ... [snip!] ... of unhappiness? The kids' age? Etc. (and for my friends, yes, I know exactly what you're thinking, so think objectively)"
I wouldn't stay together only for the kids. As they get older, they'll sense an unhappy marriage. (Or at least, I did growing up)
If we honestly tried, and we couldn't work past our issues, then that would be it.
Leave his stupid worthless ass!
I've wanted to say that a long time.. :oops:
not at all. whats the point? you will be fihting all the time, and the kids will be able to tell something is wrong. why stay together if you are unhappy? i think the kids would rather see both thier parents happy, but with other people or by themselves, then see their parents miserable together.
I was actually just facing this dilemma.
If he was unwilling to work on any of the issues and/or blaming everything on me, I'd walk away. If it was something that could be fixed and we both were willing to try, I'd stay.
A friend of mine when she was way young, her mom decided then that she was ready to leave. She told my friend's dad that the day my friend turned 18, she was gone. Which is exactly what happened.
I love my friend to death, don't get me wrong.. But she (And her brother) has so many mental issues. I am not saying the parents doing that is what caused it, but I can't help but to believe it is a factor.
No I wouldn't stay together solely for the kids. They pick up on the unhappiness of their parents and I think it is much more beneficial for children to have 2 happy parents who are seperated and being around healthy environments than being stuck with 2 unhappy parents which is a very unhealthy environment. They do not need to be picking up on that tension and negativity constantly in their lives.
DH and I split up a few months ago for like two months. We did decide to work it out but I think it's a different situation. I think me being gone those two months made him realize that I was serious about shit changing.
If you're truly unhappy, leave. You're kids will know if you're unhappy.
I HAVE tried to stick it out for the kids...it left me miserable and we eventually split up anyways. And you know what? I'm SO f**king GLAD! It gave me the chance to find myself, to grow, to be REALLY genuinely HAPPY - and to meet the love of my life.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Drippy Hairymuff:</b>" Nope. A friend of mine when she was way young, her mom decided then that she was ready to leave. She ... [snip!] ... many mental issues. I am not saying the parents doing that is what caused it, but I can't help but to believe it is a factor. "</blockquote>
It more than likely contributed to it.
My brother and sil stick it out for the kids, they are only 11.5 and 13.5 and my nephew as sever anxiety and other mental issues from it.