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Cast Your Vote:

    • I WOULD try and stick it out for the kids -- Votes: 16
    • I WOULDN'T stay together just for the kids -- Votes: 54
    • It would depend on... (comment) -- Votes: 7
khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
3rd Jan '13

Hell no. I tried it, it doesn't work. DD has actually noticed that we are both happier without each other.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
3rd Jan '13

Staying together for the kids is a stupid reason to stay together, but it made me think of this song.




http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p0586UovkcI

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" I think it would depend on if we were also trying to work on our relationship while staying together ... [snip!] ... I would not stick it out. Or if it was not a we can work on it problem like cheating it would be over for me at that point."


Definitely as a "I don't see us being in a happy marriage ever again" type of situation. Like, you've tried, but you know it's not going to be worked out. It'd be solely so that the kid/s could have both parents together, under one roof.

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
3rd Jan '13

Nope. I'd rather be a single mom than an unhappy wife.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
3rd Jan '13

If he and I were both willing to fix the issue/s, I'd stay. If there was abuse or one was unwilling to make it work, I'd leave. I'm big on trying to make marriage work, but I know that there are many times it won't. Staying only for the kids in a relationship that everyone knows is going to fail is not a good idea.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" You know what I am thinking and I would NOT stay together for the kids. EVER"


Yes, I do <3



I just have to cover my bases a million and three times, for some reason

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Leave his stupid worthless ass! I've wanted to say that a long time.. :oops:"


:D I don't blame you. The little voice in my head yells that at me non-freaking-stop.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
3rd Jan '13

Rawrrr I don't know why it won't show my text that I put in there. But that is the song it made me think of and no I would never ever ever stay to gether for just my kids. I want to show them an example of how love is supposed to be so hopefully they will follow that example.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17776 posts
3rd Jan '13

I think now I have him, I will try to work out my relationship with his father if it's a fixable thing (lack of intimacy being irresponsible, not talking to me as much, etc), . I wouldnt storm off and call it quits at the drop of a hat.



However, if I would no that nothing is going to be fixed (such as a betray of trust, infidelity, abuse) I would leave with LO and never look back.

Novelidea 2 kids; Louisiana 1217 posts
3rd Jan '13

Nope. Kids would be able to see through it anyhow.

Mama VC 18 kids; Tillson, New York 928 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" If the only thing keeping me in a relationship is the kids its time to walk away. If things could be ... [snip!] ... believe kids benefit at all when they have to miserable married parents. Much healthier to have two happily divorced parents."


This. I would have always worked hard for my relationship, and then our marriage, but once we had a child together it became a family and I would honestly work even harder to keep that intact. But if the love was gone or we were both just miserable, I would never want to force my kids to live a home like that. Two happy homes, even with the struggle it takes to get everyone there, is much better than one unhappy one.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting xTJ:" No I wouldn't stay together solely for the kids. They pick up on the unhappiness of their parents and ... [snip!] ... is a very unhealthy environment. They do not need to be picking up on that tension and negativity constantly in their lives."


What if after the split they have one parent that's happy, but one that's mad and difficult, blames the other parent, and refuses to try and go into the change smoothly?

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49283 posts
3rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rain (aka Mama):</b>" :D I don't blame you. The little voice in my head yells that at me non-freaking-stop."</blockquote>




I also want to stab him in the testicles with a rusty BBQ fork!

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting khigh:" Hell no. I tried it, it doesn't work. DD has actually noticed that we are both happier without each other."


How old is she?

whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
3rd Jan '13

If the issues could be worked out, or could try and be worked out then I'd stay. If it didn't work after that, I'd go.
I'd never be able to stay in a relationship just for the kids if we were both going to just continue to be miserable.