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--- ♡4Tristan&Sophia 2 kids; Washington 75 posts
4th Jan '13

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Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
4th Jan '13

I don't know, getting treatment actually proves that he's trying at least. However, I would look into your state's abandonment laws.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
4th Jan '13

With him getting help and being in rehab I'm not sure because that makes him look better by doing so. I would maybe contact a lawyer and see what they think about it.

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
4th Jan '13

Being on fit unfortunately does not take away his right to be a parent
When my parents adopted my sister they had to prove that her father abandon her and they also had to post an article in the newspaper letting him know about the adoption. Unfortunately without his signature or without his knowledge or him ignoring ur contact completely proving him on Sat may not be enough for adoption. That was 10 years ago though I don't know how it works now but I would talk to your attorney

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
4th Jan '13

The add in the paper was the last step. Because her father ignored aol contact. I belive that was his last chance to fight it. He does have that right unfortunately.

♡4Tristan&Sophia 2 kids; Washington 75 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Boog*sMama:" Being on fit unfortunately does not take away his right to be a parent When my parents adopted my sister ... [snip!] ... may not be enough for adoption. That was 10 years ago though I don't know how it works now but I would talk to your attorney"


In what way did he abandon her? Was it a specific period of time that he neglected to see her or was in indefinitely?

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 5581 posts
status 4th Jan '13

When my sister wanted to try to get her son's father's rights terminated she had to try to prove that he was unfit. Since your daughter's father is in rehab he is trying to better himself, which the judge might say. Also if there had been no contact or child support or visits for 6 months she could try to say that he abandoned him. This did not work for us because her son's dad was only gone 4 months. Also since his grandparents were still in the picture they could have been granted grandparents rights. Is there any chance he might not fight you on this?

♡4Tristan&Sophia 2 kids; Washington 75 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" When my sister wanted to try to get her son's father's rights terminated she had to try to prove that ... [snip!] ... were still in the picture they could have been granted grandparents rights. Is there any chance he might not fight you on this?"


That's what I'm hoping for at this point... I'm going to pick up a parental rights termination form at the juvenile court and see if we can try and work out a "collaborative" release of rights with the attorney. The only way it would work is if we had his parents backing us up on the whole plan... because I know they fear for her safety as well.



I feel like America should have higher standards for what they deem as a fit parent. :roll:

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Mh
Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 5581 posts
status 4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mh

♡4Tristan&Sophia 2 kids; Washington 75 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Boog*sMama:" He wasnt involved in her life since birth. My parents fostered her since she was born pretty much (she ... [snip!] ... 5. I also have a friend on here who is trying to do the same and spoke with a lawyer who told her pretty much the same scenario"


Wow, seems like a fairly easy process when there is no one to contest the action.