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Why is it Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
4th Jan '13

When relationships end.. Men are generally all meh...
And women want to know who and what and when and why.
My relationship is dead, done, over with and has been for a while.. But I just can't let go.. I keep thinking if I chane, if I'm better, smarter, funnier, thinner.. It will change and he'll want me....
But he won't.



It's just over, and there is literally nothing I can do.

user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
4th Jan '13

I always feel like the dude when a relationship I'm in ends. It's always the guy crying, and I'm just sitting there telling them, "it's not you, it's me".

Nikki Woods4 Due September 3 (boy); 19 kids; Danville, Kentucky 944 posts
4th Jan '13

Because generally women are more emotional beings and thinkers and men are physical and "doers"? Thats my theory- and I've been awake for 2 days so sorry if that doesnt make sense. Lol

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
4th Jan '13

Do you really think it's worth it having to change in order for someone to want you? That's would I ask myself and the answe would probably be no.



However, I know how you feel. It happened the one time DH and I broke up.



How long has it been since you two broke up?

Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" Do you really think it's worth it having to change in order for someone to want you? That's would I ask ... [snip!] ... no. However, I know how you feel. It happened the one time DH and I broke up. How long has it been since you two broke up?"</blockquote>




I keep thinking if I change, our relationship would be better so he would wanna make it work.




Things hit the skids about 6 months ago, but it was only officially over a few weeks ago when he told me like he was done.. No more relationship.
I just went home for Christmas to see my family and I couldn't tell them.. I was just so like ashamed or something. I just really wanted it to work..
I moved to be with him and stuff. So yeah it's tough.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Monkey Nuts:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" Do you really think it's worth ... [snip!] ... was just so like ashamed or something. I just really wanted it to work.. I moved to be with him and stuff. So yeah it's tough."


Awe, I'm sorry. :(



Yeah it does get tough and although it probably hurts right now. By experience, I can say it gets better. I'm sure you are beautiful and have a great personality. My mother always says, "one man's loss is another's treasure."



Plus, you never know. Maybe time will let him figure out that being with you IS what he really wants.



Keep your head up.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
4th Jan '13

I feel the same exact way about my ex SO right now and I hate it

Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
4th Jan '13

It's just so fucked.
He loves me.. I know he does.. He'll he wouldn't have kept me around with all the shut I've done..




But he just doesn't wanna be with me.
It's over. He doesn't wanna be with me.
I just need to keep saying it over and over.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Monkey Nuts:" It's just so fucked. He loves me.. I know he does.. He'll he wouldn't have kept me around with all the ... [snip!] ... But he just doesn't wanna be with me. It's over. He doesn't wanna be with me. I just need to keep saying it over and over."


That's the same reason why DH and I broke up when we did because after LO I changed and treated him like crap. He eventually got tired of it.



Do you think, maybe you two can be friends? So maybe you can show him that you've changed and won't do any more shit to him?

Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" That's the same reason why DH and I broke up when we did because after LO I changed and treated him ... [snip!] ... Do you think, maybe you two can be friends? So maybe you can show him that you've changed and won't do any more shit to him?"</blockquote>




I don't think it will matter.
No matter what I do.. He's done..
He's not the sort of person who goes back.



He got married once.. It didn't work out so e won't marry again.
He had kids.. It was all fucked up so he doesn't want anymore.



He won't change his mind.



I just need to leave but I don't evens know where to start.. I've for no plan or hope anymore for anything.