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case closed. anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
4th Jan '13

thanks mamas!

FutureMommyof2 Due June 5; 1 child; Charlotte, North Carolina 1035 posts
4th Jan '13

Just refuse to engage with her or to reply to her texts. And know that you are doing the best you can.

MamaTiffy[20-weeks] Due August 2; 2 kids; Sunnyvale, CA, United States 8725 posts
4th Jan '13

Can you block her number? Let her know that you don't appreciate her saying such things and if she continues you'll have no choice but to block her number from your phone. You're a single mom working and going to school, you don't need the added stress of her childish little hissy fits.

-BLT- Due May 20; 1 child; St Louis, Missouri 2572 posts
4th Jan '13

If shes texting you, ignore them. If she calls you to attack, hang up the phone. You've said your piece, you're not going to change her mind or actions. If you refuse to step up to fight with her, she'll lose interest.

buggials 1 child; Valrico, Florida 646 posts
4th Jan '13

block her number. My sister is the same way. My parents raised my neice seriously my sister would lay in bed while they did everything for the baby I bought her stuff she got tons of free stuff didn't buy anything ever she didn't have a job or school. When I got pregnant not only according to her was I too fat to be pregnant but I was unprepared should have gotten an abortion and didn't buy anything for my daughter. I have a job and school...I bought most of my daughters stuff on my own. My grandmother bought me two big toys *big whoop* and my mom baby sits while I'm at work. She still talks smack about me I ignore her, I blocked her number, blocked her facebook and told her to screw off until she grows up. Seriously the best thing you can do is block her from everything and be the bigger person I've been there tried to fight that crap it brings you to there level. Do what you have to do for your child and ignore her.

♥cuppycake♥ 4 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 446 posts
4th Jan '13

would just ignore her.when she blows up your phone with nasty calls and texts just delete the text and ignore the calls.all that matters is that you know you are a great mom,you do what is best for your kids and they are happy.don't feed into her drama anymore and just ignore her childish bull shit.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
4th Jan '13

Block her number & continue moving forward with your life :)

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" If shes texting you, ignore them. If she calls you to attack, hang up the phone. You've said your piece, ... [snip!] ... your piece, you're not going to change her mind or actions. If you refuse to step up to fight with her, she'll lose interest."</blockquote>




See, i usually do just ignore it. But that means she'll drag our parents into it, or whoever else is around. I know they have to learn to stop enabling it....



How do you block a number?

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥cuppycake♥:</b>" would just ignore her.when she blows up your phone with nasty calls and texts just delete the text and ... [snip!] ... do what is best for your kids and they are happy.don't feed into her drama anymore and just ignore her childish bull shit."</blockquote>




Yeah, i mean... i know i do the best i can. I feel like i actually push too hard a lot. Its just devastating when someone you love repeatedly tells you how shitty of a mom you are.. even when you know its not true. These freakouts of hers occur about every three weeks or so, once a month at least, and they're just vicious. Like, I'll look at my phone and see PART of the text and I'll cry - im sure a lot has to do with hormones but, still.

♥cuppycake♥ 4 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 446 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥cuppycake♥:</b>" would just ignore her.when she ... [snip!] ... vicious. Like, I'll look at my phone and see PART of the text and I'll cry - im sure a lot has to do with hormones but, still."

hun i know how that is.my mom was real bad a few years ago and would randomly send me hate text saying i was a shit mom,i should have them taken from me,that she should have gotten rid of me when she had the chance,and the list goes on.but once i said screw it if you continue to treat me with such hate then i don't want you in my life anymore.she straitened up after that thank god,got on some depression meds and we are fine now.just put your foot down and say i'm not taking your shit anymore and until you can act like good sister and be there for me i want nothing to do with you.

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥cuppycake♥:</b>" hun i know how that is.my mom was real bad a few years ago and would randomly send me hate text saying ... [snip!] ... say i'm not taking your shit anymore and until you can act like good sister and be there for me i want nothing to do with you. "</blockquote>




Do you think it'd be too harsh to not let her visit me when im in the hospital? If she ants to go see my son in the nursery or visit him with my mom that's fine, but i really just don't want o se her.. but at the same time i don't want to punish her.. i just watch her to grow up and be decent towards me and i need her to take it seriously this time.

♥cuppycake♥ 4 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 446 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥cuppycake♥:</b>" hun i know how that is.my mom ... [snip!] ... don't want to punish her.. i just watch her to grow up and be decent towards me and i need her to take it seriously this time."


no,after how she has been treating you i think you have every rite to decline her coming to see you.just be up front about before hand.tell her exactly how you feel and don't worry about hurting her she needs a reality check.tell her she can see him but since she acts the way she does you don't want to see her.maybe it will make her realize she needs to change.