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Porn conversation at husbands work EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
4th Jan '13

My husband is in the military. He was working the other day and at work there was a guy who was asking for advice, his wife was mad at him because she found porn on his computer. He was asking other guys in the office for advice, all of them were saying, it doesn't matter porn is fine and normal, telling him she'll get over it, or that he should hide it from her. Well then they look at my husband and say "I bet you even watch porn right?" And my husband said no, and gave his reasoning why (no religious reasons were brought up) When he said "no" Their reactions were all "what?" Well then he began to explain why he didn't.. and they all I guess started talking over him to the other guy saying no porn is fine. blah blah blah. Almost all the guys gave this dude advice, but none wanted him to hear anything different then what they told him, so they spoke over my husband to him.. I found it pretty rude.



My question is, if someone came to you looking for advice and everyone was giving their viewpoint on the manner, would you talk over them if 1 persons viewpoint was different then yours?

Beth~N~Lizzie 1 child; Winter Haven, Florida 2755 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:</b>" My husband is in the military. He was working the other day and at work there was a guy who was asking ... [snip!] ... everyone was giving their viewpoint on the manner, would you talk over them if 1 persons viewpoint was different then yours?"</blockquote>



No I'd let them be heard

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 21442 posts
status 4th Jan '13

the way men have conversations is not like us at all.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
4th Jan '13

If I was talking to two women about my son, and one of the women had a child and the other didnt....I would probably tune out the single women and listen to the mother when it comes to advice.




Im sure they seen it as what advice could your husband give about porn in a relationship if he doesnt have porn in his releationship

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
4th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" If I was talking to two women about my son, and one of the women had a child and the other didnt....I ... [snip!] ... they seen it as what advice could your husband give about porn in a relationship if he doesnt have porn in his releationship"</blockquote>




This!

EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Shannonsfirst:" If I was talking to two women about my son, and one of the women had a child and the other didnt....I ... [snip!] ... they seen it as what advice could your husband give about porn in a relationship if he doesnt have porn in his releationship"


Well my husband did used to watch porn. There are religious and non religious reasons that he stopped. And it actually took him over a year to fully stop watching porn..
I don't think he shared that part with the guy though. So maybe they didn't know.. This guy was a younger guy just looking for advice, he didn't talk over my husband he was actually listening. but no one wanted him to hear a different veiwpoint.

Jess♫ 2 kids; Washington, Pennsylvania 6391 posts
4th Jan '13

OT but I read this as "porn convention at husbands work" LOL

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" Well my husband did used to watch porn. There are religious and non religious reasons that he stopped. ... [snip!] ... for advice, he didn't talk over my husband he was actually listening. but no one wanted him to hear a different veiwpoint."


Yes it is rude.



But really, I dont want to hear someone elses view on it either, so I probably would have got wrapped up in the talk with the rest of them.



These are men though....they dont have talks about how they feel about this and that, they shoot the shit.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
4th Jan '13

I just had to say, if my husband felt guilty about looking at porn because I didn't like it, and his friends talked him back into it, I would be so pissed. What they did was disrespectful to your husband and the other man, the one they were giving 'advice' to. And my ex always wondered why I didn't like his friends :roll:

EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Jess♫:" OT but I read this as "porn convention at husbands work" LOL"


Haha! no no no!

Vile Tramp 2 kids; New York 32363 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" Well my husband did used to watch porn. There are religious and non religious reasons that he stopped. ... [snip!] ... for advice, he didn't talk over my husband he was actually listening. but no one wanted him to hear a different veiwpoint."


To me personally? If your husband did bring religion into it, I would have been one of the rude ones and talked over him. Most of the time, when you do something that is against someone else's viewpoint and they bring religion into it, most people can get defensive and feel "attacked". Not saying that hows your husband did it, and like you said you don't know if he even brought it up.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Faith1LovesMLP:" I just had to say, if my husband felt guilty about looking at porn because I didn't like it, and his ... [snip!] ... husband and the other man, the one they were giving 'advice' to. And my ex always wondered why I didn't like his friends :roll:"


true...but in a good relationship you dont let other influence you at all right?



sounds like its a good thing hes your ex :wink:

EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" To me personally? If your husband did bring religion into it, I would have been one of the rude ones ... [snip!] ... and feel "attacked". Not saying that hows your husband did it, and like you said you don't know if he even brought it up. "


No, he didn't bring up religion at all. He told me that. They just didn't want the guy getting a veiwpoint different then theirs.

Vile Tramp 2 kids; New York 32363 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" No, he didn't bring up religion at all. He told me that. They just didn't want the guy getting a veiwpoint different then theirs."


Oh. Well Idk if I would have listened( Probably half heartedly TBH) I wouldn't have talked OVER him though.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5416 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Shannonsfirst:" If I was talking to two women about my son, and one of the women had a child and the other didnt....I ... [snip!] ... they seen it as what advice could your husband give about porn in a relationship if he doesnt have porn in his releationship"


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