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... BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13
user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
4th Jan '13

Why are you paying him if you have your child the majority of the time? Here, no one pays if it's 50/50 and if it's an uneven split the parent with less time pays.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
4th Jan '13

i don't see why you'd pay him if you have the child more?...

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy Due September 5 (girl); 2 kids; 4 angel babies; California 30105 posts
4th Jan '13

Dear God i hope not, I don't think you will end up owing him more child support cause your'e already paying 100% for childcare, im not too sure though maybe call your social worker.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13

The CA family law f**king sucks ass. It goes solely based on income, and the amount of time the child spends with each parent. That's IT.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13
Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:" Dear God i hope not, I don't think you will end up owing him more child support cause your'e already paying 100% for childcare, im not too sure though maybe call your social worker."


My social worker can't say anything either which way. She said to make sure to show up in court with all of my required documentation and see how it goes from there. If I am told to pay an amount I cannot afford all I can do is go before the judge and pray for the best.

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy Due September 5 (girl); 2 kids; 4 angel babies; California 30105 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" The CA family law f**king sucks ass. It goes solely based on income, and the amount of time the child spends with each parent. That's IT."

well hopefully the judge sees that your barely scraping by and doesn't add on more CS

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" The CA family law f**king sucks ass. It goes solely based on income, and the amount of time the child spends with each parent. That's IT."


i still don't get how you have to pay, though?

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13
Quoting MommaNoodle:" i still don't get how you have to pay, though?"


Because I made more than he did. He made like $200 less than I did. Now I make more and he gets half of what I get paid a month.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" Because I made more than he did. He made like $200 less than I did. Now I make more and he gets half of what I get paid a month."


right, but then how do they factor in the time spent? that should even the field a bit, no?... it's 60/40 split, in your favor....

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
4th Jan '13

I don't know, girl.. All I know is it's complete bullshit.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13
Quoting MommaNoodle:" right, but then how do they factor in the time spent? that should even the field a bit, no?... it's 60/40 split, in your favor...."


Apparently not. It really doesn't seem fair to me at all but it is what is is. I just don't want to owe him anything else, especially because he left us high and dry financially for the last year.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" Apparently not. It really doesn't seem fair to me at all but it is what is is. I just don't want to owe him anything else, especially because he left us high and dry financially for the last year."


well, i hope you don't end up having to because that sucks.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I don't know, girl.. All I know is it's complete bullshit."


I couldn't agree more. I am so frustrated. I am tired of this shit. I am tired of struggling. I am tired of going thru this shit while pregnant now too. I am not asking for anything outrageous. I just want the help that DS & I deserve. I want to be happy. I want to be able to do fun things with him. But it's too much to ask. :x

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 63130 posts
status 4th Jan '13
Quoting MommaNoodle:" well, i hope you don't end up having to because that sucks. "


You and me both.