Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49455 posts
11th Jan '13

<blockquotete><b>Quoti.. ng Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):</b>" I'm here to cadeal ut THIS f**king, c**t for being a complete b***h and going back onoffer to but I waother ... [snip!] ... back on her offer for no good reacts. WHO the f**k pulls the rug out from under someone when they're already down?! :evil:"</blockquote>




That's so fucked up...it's hard enough having a preemie with. out having to deal with that shit. How is Emily doing now? My youngest was born at 27 weeks, but I was lucky to live close enough to the hospital she was in. It's an emotional roller coaster, will you please tell her about the preemie moms chat thread in the parents with preemies forum, I started it after my daughter was born

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
11th Jan '13

Hm. I dont think I *really* know either of them, other than a little here and there in K&S and various places. It is sad if their friendship was hurt by this, and it made her feel like a friend turned a back on her during a time of need.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" She backed out because she bitched about her husband's abusive behavior on FB, Sarah told her that she ... [snip!] ... like Sarah for giving her opinion. That's why she backed out and made it sound like Sarah was going to be mooching off of them."


Knowing that she is in an abusive relationship and one where the abuser doesn't like the girl in need, you may want to take that into account. I don't know if you've ever been in an abusive relationship, but when you are, you have no say in any of your own decisions, you are at the mercy of your abuser. And you can tell someone to get out all day long, but that's not going to happen unless she's emotionally and mentally ready to do that. I'm sure she knows that she needs to get out, but it's not that simple when you're sucked into an abusive lifestyle.



It sounds to me like you acknowledge that it was likely her husband's decision not to let her stay with them, and you're upset because she didn't stand up to her abuser and let them stay there?

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
11th Jan '13

Oh and LD and kiddies stayed with Sarah when her husband was deployed. She's opened her home to LD before. I just think it's crappy to go back on your word in the way that she did it. Shit happens and sometimes we have to cancel an offer we made if something comes up. But there's difference between making your "friend" out to be a freeloader and coming to them privately and apologizing for having to take it back and explaining a situation.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:" <blockquotete><b>Quoti.. ng Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):</b>" I'm here to cadeal ut THIS ... [snip!] ... please tell her about the preemie moms chat thread in the parents with preemies forum, I started it after my daughter was born"


I will! Emily is doing awesome! Gaining weight like crazy but still on the feeding tube. They're waiting for her to eat fully by mouth before they release her.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Oh and LD and kiddies stayed with Sarah when her husband was deployed. She's opened her home to LD before. ... [snip!] ... out to be a freeloader and coming to them privately and apologizing for having to take it back and explaining a situation."


This just confirmed my thoughts.



Obviously she's able to do all of the nice things she wants for her friend when her abuser isn't controlling her.



When her abuser is around (not deployed) she is at the mercy of him.



So I think it's kind of in bad taste to call her out for not helping her friend, when you know very well that her abusive husband is the one who more than likely is the source of her having to back out.



I'm sure she feels worse about not being able to help than anyone, on top of the fact that she knows it's her fault for staying in the abusive relationship she feels trapped in, on top of it.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116990 posts
11th Jan '13

Wait did Sarah's husband get a job? How were they supposed to pay for all this stuff?

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116990 posts
11th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" This just confirmed my thoughts. Obviously she's able to do all of the nice things she wants for her ... [snip!] ... on top of the fact that she knows it's her fault for staying in the abusive relationship she feels trapped in, on top of it. "</blockquote>




Afreakingmen

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49455 posts
11th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):</b>" I will! Emily is doing awesome! Gaining weight Like crbreakt mill on the feeding tube. They're waiting for her to eat fully by mouth before they release her."</blockquote>




That's so great. That was the biggest hurdle for my daughter too, we had lots of issues with her feedings. It breaks my heart to hear about preemies,,, knowing how hard it was for me.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" This just confirmed my thoughts. Obviously she's able to do all of the nice things she wants for her ... [snip!] ... on top of the fact that she knows it's her fault for staying in the abusive relationship she feels trapped in, on top of it. "


No you've got it backwards. Sarah helped LD out when her husband was deployed. LD has never helped Sarah out. And this was the chance to help Sarah and she backed out.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting ♡Sarah Barah♡:" Wait did Sarah's husband get a job? How were they supposed to pay for all this stuff?"


I'm not sure on that one.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" No you've got it backwards. Sarah helped LD out when her husband was deployed. LD has never helped Sarah out. And this was the chance to help Sarah and she backed out."



And as you said, she backed out because her abusive husband dislike's her, correct?



Would you prefer she defy her abusive husband and let this person come and live with them, and hope that she doesn't get abused for it? Or possibly risk having her friend be abused by her abusive husband for it as well?

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" And as you said, she backed out because her abusive husband dislike's her, correct? Would you prefer ... [snip!] ... hope that she doesn't get abused for it? Or possibly risk having her friend be abused by her abusive husband for it as well?"


And as I ALSO said it was HOW she handled it. Not THAT she had to back out.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" And as you said, she backed out because her abusive husband dislike's her, correct? Would you prefer ... [snip!] ... hope that she doesn't get abused for it? Or possibly risk having her friend be abused by her abusive husband for it as well?"


Or she could have PM'd Sarah explaining the situation instead of making Sarah out to be a freeloader :idea:

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Faith1LovesMLP:" Or she could have PM'd Sarah explaining the situation instead of making Sarah out to be a freeloader :idea:"


Ohhhh look at you being logical. :idea: