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user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" both? He's still sitting here next to me playing it after I was crying. He said we should go to the movies tomorrow -_- I hate that he wants to play nice."


The movies is all you get for being completely emotionally broken down? You two get to sit in the same room together in a bigger room with more people and continue to not talk? Do you see the pattern?

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" The movies is all you get for being completely emotionally broken down? You two get to sit in the same ... [snip!] ... two get to sit in the same room together in a bigger room with more people and continue to not talk? Do you see the pattern?"


I definitely do. Just have to figure out how to handle this.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
6th Jan '13

:cry:



I'm sorry. I feel like Red Bottom covered all of the bases so I do not have much to say, I do agree with her mostly. I hope that at least you find strength in all of this if he can not at least realize the damage that he is doing to your relationship.



If DH was doing this to me I wouldn't give into him "playing nice". A date night isn't going to solve this problem, he needs to take your feelings into consideration and mend what he has broken.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" I definitely do. Just have to figure out how to handle this."



What would you tell your daughter to do if she came to you sobbing about this and her husband didn't care and continued with his game?

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" What would you tell your daughter to do if she came to you sobbing about this and her husband didn't care and continued with his game?"


To find a better guy :/

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" To find a better guy :/"


Then be an example to her.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
6th Jan '13

Woke up and I can't stand to see him sleeping. I wish today wasn't his day off. I have never not wanted to be with him so much.

EnnaBennaBanana Due February 2; 2 kids; Maryland 6195 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" My SO plays video games from the time he comes home to when he goes to bed. I am always telling him to ... [snip!] ... tv or just chat face to face and I don't see how that's possible if he is constantly doing something. So tired of this. :cry:"


Video games can be a nice hobby and something fun to do.. but if it takes time away from family (which should be your first priority) then that is a problem. Video games can be very addicting aswell.. so it can be hard. My husband and i have this rule.. no video games till our son is napping or asleep. He'll usually play at our sons nap time, then sometimes he'll play for an hour at our sons bedtime.. then after that he spends time with me.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" Video games can be a nice hobby and something fun to do.. but if it takes time away from family (which ... [snip!] ... play at our sons nap time, then sometimes he'll play for an hour at our sons bedtime.. then after that he spends time with me."


I've tried making compromises. He doesn't listen. When I first mentioned the two hour thing he said it's a good idea. He hasn't followed it since.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" Woke up and I can't stand to see him sleeping. I wish today wasn't his day off. I have never not wanted to be with him so much."



Imagine feeling like that every day for the rest of your life, while you're caring for his child and he's playing video games instead of helping....



You deserve better. Raise your standards.