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user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Twin's Mommy:</b>" I'm sure you have, but I'm going to ask anyway, ... [snip!] ... have you ever told him that it's alcohol or your family?"</blockquote> Yes,.alcohol and his friends win every time"


That's shit. Family should come first, no matter what. Do you have a woman's advocate where you live?

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624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting
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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" :cry: Get out while you can."</blockquote> He wont kill me. I promise you that"


I think every battered woman says that before their husband escalates.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" :cry: Get out while you can."</blockquote> He wont kill me. I promise you that"


For you to even have that thought go through your head is just wrong. Someone who loves and cares about you wouldnt hurt you in anyway.

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Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" :cry: Get out while you can."</blockquote> He wont kill me. I promise you that"


You really never know. My mother was in an abusive relationship for 21 years. I don't ever want to see another mama go through what she did. She felt the same way you did- and now she's seriously fucked in the head and has more issues than anyone I have ever met, and it has broken my heart. Please don't be the woman that doesn't stand up for herself. If you don't think you can do it for you, do it for your child.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I think every battered woman says that before ... [snip!] ... overestimating my husband. He would nt waste his time, and besides, who would cook his meals and do his laundry?"


I know that you stated you're in fear of him being violent, so I think you may be underestimating.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I think every battered woman says that before ... [snip!] ... overestimating my husband. He would nt waste his time, and besides, who would cook his meals and do his laundry?"


The jail he gets locked up in when he does ...

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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I know that you stated you're in fear of ... [snip!] ... hit me with a door twice (says it was an accident) and put a whole through the same door but I made him really mad that night"


So on top of being indirectly violent towards you so that he can defend himself in his mind, he has also gotten you to the point where you blame yourself.



You have battered women's syndrome.



That is not and insult, nor is it your fault. But bottom line, he is volatile and it will only get worse.



Have you sat down and thought about what is going to be your breaking point?



You have noted that he's not capable of changing, and you are in fear and completely unhappy, so how much longer are you going to continue to punish yourself and your family by letting this continue?

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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" So on top of being indirectly violent towards ... [snip!] ... I'd be cut off.financially and my credit.would be destroyed. I've been looking for jobs but I have.no sitter.or.qualifications"


So him abusing you with THINGS (a door) would be what convinces you that he's not the wonderful man everyone says he is....but him being verbally abusive, being violent in general, drinking, choosing his friends and alcohol over his family, and being emotionally abusive is not enough?



You do not want your children to grow up feeling like you do. Afraid of the man they live with, emotionally broken down, ignored for friends and alcohol. While being even more helpless because they REALLY cannot leave.



Do you want them to grow up thinking that this is an okay way to be treated?



What would you tell your daughter if she called you because he husband was treating her the way yours treats you? Would you tell her to stay and hope it gets better, or wait for him to hit her before she leaves?



You have family. You're in an abusive relationship. I guarantee they would help you leave, so you can get on your feet again, without him.