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how to deal with a challenging 17 month old What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
6th Jan '13

My son is 17 months and constantly pushing boundaries. You tell him to sit down in his chair and he sits for a second and then tries to stand up again, you tell him no and he stops for a second and does it again, like he is testing our limits or something. We have tried time out (he just laughs and is constantly trying to run away when we do that like it is a game) we have tried redirecting him and he just ends up going right back to what he was doing, it is getting really frustrating because now he is climbing on top of anything he can get on and has fallen off and landed on his head like four times now. Luckily he was never high enough to get hurt but he will be especially now that he has learned to move a solid object over to what he wants to get on if it is to high...



WWYD

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
6th Jan '13

Redirection. Be on top of it at all times, he'll get the point eventually. He's still young.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
6th Jan '13

children that age cant sit for long times.



climbing is a huge thing at that age. the only think you can do is try and get his attention to a toy he really likes or play with him when he is doing those things. its not that he is so much testing you, boys tend to be more into how things work if i do this what will happen. ect.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" children that age cant sit for long times. climbing is a huge thing at that age. the only think you ... [snip!] ... things. its not that he is so much testing you, boys tend to be more into how things work if i do this what will happen. ect. "

and I don't expect him to sit for a long time but when he punches you in the face or starts hitting and stepping on the animals you can't exactly just let that happen. He has given myself, my husband and my sister all fat lips a few times and he likes to walk up to people and headbutt them. That is like him saying hi to them.. I don't know what to do about any of this which is the major reason we are having issues.. which I forgot to put apparently..

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Raindancer:" and I don't expect him to sit for a long time but when he punches you in the face or starts hitting and ... [snip!] ... I don't know what to do about any of this which is the major reason we are having issues.. which I forgot to put apparently.."


I started time outs at 18 months for hitting. I only did 1 minute and she sat in a chair.



Get down on his level, firmly tell him that he is not allowed to hit, and put him in time out.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting B♥Z:" I started time outs at 18 months for hitting. I only did 1 minute and she sat in a chair. Get down on his level, firmly tell him that he is not allowed to hit, and put him in time out. "

I grab his hand and tell him no and the second I let go he laughs and does it again so it is just getting to that point.. Like he knows what he is doing so he should know what time out is yet he just laughs.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Raindancer:" and I don't expect him to sit for a long time but when he punches you in the face or starts hitting and ... [snip!] ... I don't know what to do about any of this which is the major reason we are having issues.. which I forgot to put apparently.."


dont get all bitchy you didnt put that in there. hitting is also a stage they go threw. how i broke my son was every time he did it i would gently but firmly grab his had and say "no hit"... "hurt" and make a sad face.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" dont get all bitchy you didnt put that in there. hitting is also a stage they go threw. how i broke ... [snip!] ... i broke my son was every time he did it i would gently but firmly grab his had and say "no hit"... "hurt" and make a sad face. "

Not getting bitchy. I can though but my bitchy is a lot worse than most peoples bitchy.
I have tried that. That is actually one of the first things I tried when he started doing that and he just laughs. He thinks that people being in pain is funny. Every since he was a baby even when he was only a few months old he would just hit everything. He would be breastfeeding and slapping me at the same time. I tended just to grab his hand and hold it because he would chill out when I did that but it has just progressively gotten worse.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Raindancer:" Not getting bitchy. I can though but my bitchy is a lot worse than most peoples bitchy. I have tried ... [snip!] ... tended just to grab his hand and hold it because he would chill out when I did that but it has just progressively gotten worse."


my oldest was the same way. it took time. and small words work great over we dont hurt because it hurts. i even did the whole fake cry thing and that just made him giggle.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" my oldest was the same way. it took time. and small words work great over we dont hurt because it hurts. i even did the whole fake cry thing and that just made him giggle. "

He does this too. It drives me insane honestly. My main thing has been trying to keep my cool in these situations because it does hurt when he hits.. he hits pretty hard so I am just like DUDE... CHILL... but yeah.. He doesn't understand dude or chill yet.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Raindancer:" He does this too. It drives me insane honestly. My main thing has been trying to keep my cool in these ... [snip!] ... hurt when he hits.. he hits pretty hard so I am just like DUDE... CHILL... but yeah.. He doesn't understand dude or chill yet."


i did the same thing and i did a out reach to a woman who showed me keep it simple to "no hit" "no slap" very simple and easy. because of them having a such a short attrition span things that are more then that can become lost very fast.