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D&D "Quit crying like a little girl" **milfshake** London, United Kingdom 31502 posts
6th Jan '13

"Quit crying like a little girl"




What does that statement say to you?



Is this something you'd be okay with your LO hearing and saying?




Just tell me what you think about it if anything...

♥MomToSilas+1♥ Due December 9; 1 child; ., IL, United States 11239 posts
6th Jan '13

I say it. Doesn't bother me and wouldn't matter to me if DS heard it.

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
6th Jan '13

i dont take it to be literally crying like a female (but we as a while do cry more, or over smaller stupid crap!)



doesnt really bother me.. i havent heard that one for a while!

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
6th Jan '13

Doesn't bother me.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
6th Jan '13

I think if you read too much into it, there could be a lot to be said.



However that's not my style, so I think of that as someone is crying over something stupid, lol. We tell DD to quit crying like a baby when she's overreacting so I guess it's the same thing. I would not like DD saying that to anyone, not at this age anyways.

Kristen Parris 2 kids; Virginia 1939 posts
6th Jan '13

I feel like it is kind of mean and it is meant to be offensive..



I wouldn't want my children hearing or saying that but it isn't that BIG of a deal ya know?

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
6th Jan '13

If my DH told my DS that I would want to punch him in the balls, but thats just me :lol:



Edit: I also wouldn't want my DS to say it to anyone else.

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 31502 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Rd.:" I think if you read too much into it, there could be a lot to be said. However that's not my style, ... [snip!] ... when she's overreacting so I guess it's the same thing. I would not like DD saying that to anyone, not at this age anyways."


Someone said it to my son and it irritated me.



I think the underlying message there is a sexist one, and I don't want my son thinking that crying is a sign of weakness, and girls cry more so they are weaker.



"Cry like a baby" is more my style, and that only gets used over petty things he is working up crocodile tears for.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
6th Jan '13

I don't let my husband say it to my son...

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 31502 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Kristen Parris:" I feel like it is kind of mean and it is meant to be offensive.. I wouldn't want my children hearing or saying that but it isn't that BIG of a deal ya know?"


It isn't a HUGE deal...but IDK...it just seems like a shitty thing to say to really anyone.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
6th Jan '13

I think it's a dumb phrase. Everyone cries, not just "little girls". :?
Other than that, it has all kinds of implications that are equally dumb.
I wouldn't say it, but I wouldn't freak out over my kids hearing it. I would tell them not to say it if I heard them say it.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
6th Jan '13

It's sexist and if anyone says that to either of my kids, they will be told off.



I tell my son "talk like a big boy, I can't understand whining or crying. Babies cry because they don't know how to talk, but you do, so you don't need to cry unless you're hurt or sad"



My son lost his brother a year ago and my dad died 3 months ago, I refuse to tell my child who deals with true grief that crying is a bad thing. I just emphasize that he should talk to me about his feelings too. Sometimes we have a bad day and cry for my second son together.



But I refuse to let anyone tell him to just stop crying or that crying is a girl thing.

Kristen Parris 2 kids; Virginia 1939 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting **milfshake**:" It isn't a HUGE deal...but IDK...it just seems like a shitty thing to say to really anyone."


I agree.. If someone said that to my son I would get pretty mad...

Amy Packer 1 child; Battle Creek, Michigan 533 posts
6th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:</b>" If my DH tols my DS that I would want to punch him in the balls, but thats just me :lol:"</blockquote>




This! I don't see the point in it being said and I think its very rude and unnecessary..even if a child is crying for a "silly reason", there are other ways to handle it..yeah I have a son and the world views that they are supposed to be tough but if my son cries over something I'm gonna comfort him or atleast find out why he is crying.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45938 posts
6th Jan '13

I feel like it is enforcing the stereotype that men can't show emotion otherwise they are seen as weak or effeminate.



It can be really damaging in the long run.