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✩BG Addict +2 2 kids; Ohio 24298 posts
6th Jan '13

im' in the middle, i think.




i think it's stupid to pit the two against each other. neither is wrong. it's just different than the other. as long as the babe is being taken care of (needs are being met) who cares?

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
6th Jan '13

Left...although I do use his stroller every now and then when I go stroller skating.
He prefers to ride on my back/front in his sling on long walks or outing.



I definitely agree with the photo as far as some countries go

Phf- ee bee;) Due January 26 (girl); 18 kids; Pennsylvania 5310 posts
6th Jan '13

Why do you have to be one 'parenting style' or the other, one side or the other, like this or like that---- why can't you just be a PARENT and it be ok!

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
6th Jan '13

A lot of women are crapped on for not breastfeeding, so I partially disagree.

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
6th Jan '13

I agree with the picture and since I'm instinctual, I guess I lean more to the left. I rely more on common sense and experience than I do on studies and fads.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
6th Jan '13

idk.... i kind of have a problem with the word "instinctual". it rubs me the wrong way because it seems like it is saying to me, "if you don't breastfeed/co-sleep/baby-wear, you don't have motherly instincts".... my instincts tell me certain things to do to raise my baby, and other people's tell them other things maybe. maybe some of our "instincts" overlap. but... i just don't agree with that wording.

Cakes. 1 child; Michigan 2679 posts
status 6th Jan '13

I'm definitely more to the left, but I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with the pictures on the right. Everybody will parent the way they see best for themselves and their children.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
6th Jan '13

I'm more to the right and we are crapped on by the crunchy moms, so I don't really agree with the quote. I do have motherly instincts, but I prefer convenience over attachment parenting and DD is turning out just right.

Vince Offer 2 kids; Bellevue, Washington 223 posts
6th Jan '13

Unashamedly left. I wholeheartedly agree with the pic.



The "I turned out fine" or "my kid is just fine" argument is a lame justification for laziness and keeping up "traditional" parenting that has gotten our society into precisely the mess it's in now: unhealthy, unhappy, and violent in all senses of the word. Think about it just a moment: these practices are what have shaped a vast majority of people alive today in our culture. Something is fucked up. The unhappy, unhealthy and unstable people cannot all be the fault of non-mainstream parenting practices, because there just aren't that many people out of the mainstream.



It's a self-verification and a major logical fallacy as well, not particularly believable when you consider it in terms of logic.



If you/your kid WEREN'T just fine, it's not like you'd admit it when you're justifying the behaviors that made that happen to either of you, now would you?

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Vince Offer:" Unashamedly left. I wholeheartedly agree with the pic. The "I turned out fine" or "my kid is just fine" ... [snip!] ... fine, it's not like you'd admit it when you're justifying the behaviors that made that happen to either of you, now would you?"


i don't think that i am "lazy" just because i didn't/don't do all the stuff on the left....

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Vince Offer:" Left. And I wholeheartedly agree with the pic. The "I turned out fine" or "my kid is just fine" argument ... [snip!] ... fine, it's not like you'd admit it when you're justifying the behaviors that made that happen to either of you, now would you?"


DD is in a gifted and talented private school. She's actually building a robot for Young Engineers right now for school (she's 5). She is a pageant princess and well mannered. She knows how to swim, loves dance and gymnastics, and has started horseback riding lessons. She plays sports and doesn't mind losing at them because you can't always be a winner. We play in a league that keeps score and teaches that YES, people do lose.



I didn't prop bottles until she was old enough to hold them on her own, but I did CIO, formula, strollers, NO co-sleeping. I let people babysit. I went back to work and school 6 weeks after she was born and she went to day care. I'm leaving tomorrow for a year and she will be staying with my parents for that time.



Crunchy crap just doesn't work for me, but "traditional" parenting does. One is not better than the other.

✩BG Addict +2 2 kids; Ohio 24298 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Vince Offer:" Unashamedly left. I wholeheartedly agree with the pic. The "I turned out fine" or "my kid is just fine" ... [snip!] ... fine, it's not like you'd admit it when you're justifying the behaviors that made that happen to either of you, now would you?"

lol so because someone doesn't BF, wear their child, and co-sleep they're lazy?



neither side is "wrong". they're juts different styles of parenting.

RushLimbaugh Due August 2; 1 child; Leander, Texas 2236 posts
6th Jan '13

I'm to the left in the first two photos but in the center when it comes to the last. I don't believe you have to necessarily breastfeed to bond with baby, as long as you hold and feed the baby in a loving way it is the same. The car seat photo is kind of fucked up! LOL I've never seen that before! I would sit in the backseat and feed the baby if I had another driver if not and the baby couldn't hold the bottle well I guess we have to stop the car then.



I do cosleep but not so young. I had a bassinet besides my bed so I could see the baby at all times. My husband has sleep apnea it is just not safe for him to be in bed with a baby. With the toddler, it's ok.



I had both a stroller and a sling. I LOVED both. During sightseeing in Italy, I had the sling in the stroller in case DS got tired of being in the stroller. Strollers are good to hold your shit, I like them!

Vince Offer 2 kids; Bellevue, Washington 223 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting khigh:" DD is in a gifted and talented private school. She's actually building a robot for Young Engineers right ... [snip!] ... for that time. Crunchy crap just doesn't work for me, but "traditional" parenting does. One is not better than the other."


Then you shouldn't have any need to defend your "methods" to a little old idiot like me :3




And again with the self-verifying statements. You can tell me all these great things your kid does, but there's no way for anyone but yourself to confirm or deny how "fine" she is.

Phf- ee bee;) Due January 26 (girl); 18 kids; Pennsylvania 5310 posts
6th Jan '13

I've seen some 'crunchy' parents do some fucked up things, as well as traditional parenting styles- whatever. So becuz of the 'right side' parenting, that is why our society is so fucked up.... Yes, from the way parents raised kids in the ? What? 80s and 90s and 2000s? Everyone is different whether you consider yourself in one or none of those categories, doesn't mean shit or make you better/worse.