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Mrs Mia Wallace Due May 9; 33 kids; 3 angel babies; Georgia 2859 posts
6th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Master:</b>" I'm more of the right, and don't start with the bashing I hate that myself enough for not being able to breastfeed (medical reasons) and having to work and not being able to co-sleep (medical reasons)"</blockquote>



I'm with you on the breastfeeding part! I tried and tried and tried but couldn't.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Mrs Mia Wallace:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Master:</b>" I'm more of the right, and don't start with ... [snip!] ... (medical reasons)"</blockquote> I'm with you on the breastfeeding part! I tried and tried and tried but couldn't."


I saw numerous doctors, lactation consultants, and nutritionalists to try and find out why my sons blood sugar levels were constantly dropping to dangerous levels on breast milk. In the end the doctor told me I had to at least mix feed or else DS would have permanent damage, after 12 weeks my breast milk completely dried up and then I had a huge reaction to the relactation meds.
I tried ... I fucking tried ... and people still love to give me shit about it.

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Oh, it can. Telling your child that everything ... [snip!] ... grow up thinking they are the smartest, the best, and can never lose at anything."</blockquote> That's not what AP is."


:!:
AP is teaching a child that they can trust that their caregiver or caregivers will respond to their needs and basically assures them. I did more AP with my youngest than my other kids and there's a total difference in her at her current age than the others at that age. I don't coddle her or anything but she knows that I will respond to her if she needs me.



All my kids know that life isn't fair, that they aren't the best at everything but they should make an effort at doing their best, and that making mistakes is part of being human.



As I said, there's a difference between attachment parenting and helicopter parenting.

Mrs Mia Wallace Due May 9; 33 kids; 3 angel babies; Georgia 2859 posts
6th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I saw numerous doctors, lactation consultants, and nutritionalists to try and find out why my sons blood ... [snip!] ... I had a huge reaction to the relactation meds. I tried ... I fucking tried ... and people still love to give me shit about it."</blockquote>



Damn, that sucks. I never thought about the being allergic to the medication part. :(
My son was premature by 16 weeks (everyone kept telling me that wasn't an "excuse" to not produce milk) and I tried mother's milk, reglan, fenugreek, pumping every 2-3 hours...nothing helped. I produced an ounce or two daily, if I was lucky. Finally the LC told me that I was one of those women, even with big breast, that didn't have a sufficent amount of glands. That and I contracted the flesh-eating disease after my c-section, went through another surgery and was left open with a wound vac didn't help either.



I'm sorry about what you went through and about people being insensitive assholes....No need to kick someone while they're already kicking themelves.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
6th Jan '13

AP isnt even a new thing.....its ancient. You just listen to your instincts more. You can formula feed and still be AP....its the way you go about parenting.



AP is NOT spoiling the kid...it would be ignorant to jump to that conclusion.

EnnaBennaBanana Due February 2; 2 kids; Maryland 6195 posts
6th Jan '13

Defanitly more to the leftt.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting Vince Offer:" Unashamedly left. I wholeheartedly agree with the pic. The "I turned out fine" or "my kid is just fine" ... [snip!] ... fine, it's not like you'd admit it when you're justifying the behaviors that made that happen to either of you, now would you?"


People like you are who start the pissing contests between "sides" :roll:

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
6th Jan '13
Quoting forgive-n let*love:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" question: what exactly IS "traditional pa ... [snip!] ... best/right/ect but how I want to raise them. That's my opinion on it. I hate the categories and classifications on parenting..."


In the end, it's all just parenting..

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7767 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I saw numerous doctors, lactation consultants, and nutritionalists to try and find out why my sons blood ... [snip!] ... I had a huge reaction to the relactation meds. I tried ... I fucking tried ... and people still love to give me shit about it."</blockquote>




I am in a LOT of Breastfeeding communities and idk anyone who would be cruel to you about Breastfeeding. You tried your hardest and nobody can take that away from you. I'm sorry you've had to deal with bitches.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
7th Jan '13

I'm definitely towards the right according to that picture. I am the one in charge and I'm not running a democracy here. I take feelings into account when appropriate and decide how it's going to be. I'm the parent, they're the children, I hold the authority.
I breastfed for a little while, but hated it and switched to formula fairly early both times. I let my daughter CIO at age 2- Sometimes a baby has to cry before I can get to him, but there's 2 infants and a toddler- it happens. Baby-wearing is fun sometimes but I prefer strollers.
What I don't do is abuse my children in anyway, physically, emotionally, figuratively, whatever. My kids know I love them because I show it. Being authoritative doesn't mean robotic.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):</b>" I'm definitely towards the right according to that picture. I am the one in charge and I'm not running ... [snip!] ... emotionally, figuratively, whatever. My kids know I love them because I show it. Being authoritative doesn't mean robotic."</blockquote>




See but you can definitely be left and authoritative. I think kids need that....not to a smothering degree tho. Kids need to be their own person too and have freedom to make some "age appropriate" choices.




Instinctual/primal parenting isn't letting your kids do w/e they want.



I think what the picture is trying to say is when you parent completely out of convenience or simply because its what others do...It can definitely make you more detached from your child. I think all baby's are different and have different needs but spending the time with them and becoming an expert on your child is whats important..Gets you more in tune with your instincts

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108999 posts
7th Jan '13

The OP is a very thinly veiled attempt to continue the pissing contest with AP being the "martyrs".

I am not ignorant enough to think that any one way works for every child, every family.

It doesn't, that cannot be disputed.

I really don't care what others choose to do, nor do I care how they feel about how I parent :D

I wish people would stfu about who is"right" and just parent their kid(s) in the best, most loving way they can.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):</b>" I'm definitely towards the right ... [snip!] ... spending the time with them and becoming an expert on your child is whats important..Gets you more in tune with your instincts"


My instinct is to be authoritative. I tried to AP my daughter and hated it. I can be in tune with my children without changing my preferred parenting method.
I think this picture is misleading, because it implies many things that aren't true. I cuddle with my children, I hold my babies when feeding them, I don't ignore my children and leave them to cry. Not doing "attachment parenting" doesn't mean I'm automatically detached.
I see more "my way is the right way!" from the AP crowd.

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7767 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):</b>" My instinct is to be authoritative. I tried to AP my daughter and hated it. I can be in tune with my ... [snip!] ... doing "attachment parenting" doesn't mean I'm automatically detached. I see more "my way is the right way!" from the AP crowd."</blockquote>




Well you're not what they mean by the right then are you?

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):</b>" My instinct is to be authoritative. I tried to AP my daughter and hated it. I can be in tune with my ... [snip!] ... doing "attachment parenting" doesn't mean I'm automatically detached. I see more "my way is the right way!" from the AP crowd."</blockquote>



I agree that the picture is misleading...you can use a stroller and FF and still be AP