I am asking this because I came across the topic on another forum.
When I first started dating my husband he was still bathing (on occasion) with his then three and a half year old daughters. It was a little strange to me but I also had issues with it because they started wanting to bathe with ME and I am not a biological parent. I couldn't explain to them why they couldn't bathe with me but they could with daddy with out getting into the sexual aspects of n****y. So, I just asked him to please stop since it wasn't life or death that they bathed together. It was also very cramped in the tub with a grown man and two babies and honestly I was wierded out by it. I don't think there was ANYTHING sexual about this because Hubs always wore his swimming trunks and I know he loves his daughters in a pure father/daughter way.
I was just wondering what you all think. Was I wrong for asking him to not bath with the girls? Would it make you uncomfortable? I would never bathe with my children male or female once they got old enough to sit up safely on their own. Do I have issues or is this normal? Imput please:)
Hmm i could see your point of view. but i think he was just being a parent... if their biological mommy wasnt there, he had to play both roles right?
I think once they can talk about it then it's time to stop.
My children my 2 daughters(not my son) bathe with each other but not with me or my husband unless theres a major reason like illness or something. Its not wrong of you to ask him i totally understand your aspect of it! Good Luck!
My son is 3 and a half and he still occasionally hops in the bath with me.
I stopped when my son was 4 .... but if we are in a rush I still shower with him sometimes .
Understand though that I am NOT these girls BIO mother and they are having trouble understanding why it is OK to crawl into the tub with daddy and not with me. They are five now and still ask if they can shower with me sometimes. They are asking questions now..."Do boy's have LONG pee-pee's?"..exc. They are doing the normal playing with themselves too. now that I am pregnant they always want to feel up on my b**bs and have even tried latching on through my clothes (they were breast fed) because they know pregnant means "boobie-milk". I am totally down with understand bodies and not being ashamed but when they are not your children and the bio-parents have been "open" with n****y....how do you suggest dealing in a Step Parent situation. I can tell you saying "Because I'm not Mama" ain't going to fly. They'll want to know why.
I really don't see a problem with it. Besides you said he wore swim trunks so there is not even the issue of them seeing his parts. I will bath with mine until they start toget to an age where they are more aware of n****y.So far my little kids don't think twice about running around naked around the house. They understand that Mommy, Daddy, theirsiblings and the doctor are the only people allowed to see their parts so I personally don't see a problem with it.
i took showers with my step mom (she got with my dad when i was 4 or5) up until middle school or so. i think it was good. i grew up not being ashamed of my changing body.
alessandra can take showers or baths with daddy until 4 or 5 as long as he has shorts on as she gets older. i will probaably shower, bath with her until she is getting to puberty or so like my mom did with me.
Before I lived with my dad and step mom full time, I would take baths with my little brother and of course i would help clean himself. Never had any problems with us both being naked together. Of course kids are curious to why brother/sister or mom/dad have diffrent parts but its the parents that make it a big deal or just natural.
You are family now though. I think it's totally fine. If YOU aren't ok with it, then you just need to say so and move on. But as far as the logistics go, I don't see any problem with it.
I consider my step mom my REAL mom because she was the one that steped up raised me like I was hers. She stayed with my dad and his "baggage" and I am not sure if she felt akwardness towards bathing with me in the begining but as I got older both of us were comfortable with it and there was no issue ever of her not being blood related. I never really thought much about it