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★Bloodflowers★ D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2714 posts
status 7th Jan '13

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[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
7th Jan '13

Im sorry you're going through this.



I don't think I would discuss anything with her until there is a diagnosis, if it is in fact cancer. At 2.5 they're definitely not stupid, but they don't need to be 'in the loop' with details.



I know its not the same as a parent, but my great grandma passed awayfrom lung cancer that had spread to her spine April of 2011. My LO was almost 3 at the time, and we didn't tell her that she was sick. She went to the hospital to visit her with us, but she never asked why she was there. Once she was moved home she had gotten pretty bad, the cancer was already in the end stages by the time she was diagnosed. Anyway, we took her to visit one last time when she was having a 'good day' and after that we didn't take her over there. Once she passed we told her that she went to live in Heaven with Jesus. She seems to understand that she's not here anymore. And she still asks if she's still in Heaven, and talks about her all the time.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2714 posts
status 7th Jan '13
Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:" Im sorry you're going through this. I don't think I would discuss anything with her until there is ... [snip!] ... seems to understand that she's not here anymore. And she still asks if she's still in Heaven, and talks about her all the time."


I wasn't going to to say anything until we have the diagnosis and know what stage it's at. I know people can have nodules, and it'll turn out to be nothing. With my mom I really think that it is cancer, I hope I'm wrong. We live a couple blocks away from my mom and nearly every day my daughter asks to see my mom. I just keep thinking of what do I say when/if she's gone? This whole thing makes me nervous because I'm an only child and I'm the one who will have to deal with the funeral arrangements and her estate. Along with her brother who hasn't been in her life for 23 years coming in and trying to take everything. I'm getting a head of myself here but this whole situation is stressing me out. I really hope it's nothing, or if it is cancer we caught it early on. When my mom was in the hospital with her stroke my daughter was 26 months old and understood that my mom is sick and she had to stay in the hospital.



I'm so sorry for your loss :( If my mom does pass we'll tell my daughter the same thing, that she went to live in Heaven with Jesus.



Sorry that I kinda rambled on there, I'm just very nervous to be honest. I wish my mom would stop smoking but she says "It's going to kill me anyway, so I'm going to keep smoking."

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" I wasn't going to to say anything until we have the diagnosis and know what stage it's at. I know people ... [snip!] ... to be honest. I wish my mom would stop smoking but she says "It's going to kill me anyway, so I'm going to keep smoking." "</blockquote>




Ramble away. :( its a difficult thing to go through.



Do you know if there is a will in place? If not, I believe the brother would have to take you to court of the estate etc since you're her child. Do you know if she has any life insurance? If she does its never a bad idea to know where the policies are just in case. That's the last thing you want to have to do after the fact- search through her things to find them.



I hope its not cancer. My uncle had a scare around the same time my great grandma was diagnosed. Luckily the mass wasn't cancerous. He hasn't stopped smoking either. He went to those electronic cigarettes for a while but said that he didn't like them.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2714 posts
status 9th Jan '13
Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" I wasn't going to to say anything ... [snip!] ... He hasn't stopped smoking either. He went to those electronic cigarettes for a while but said that he didn't like them."


My mom has no will. DH is a paralegal and offered to make one up for her but she doesn't want one yet. Her brother would have to fight me in court but I have a feeling he changed her policy at work (my mom works for the state). When she had her stroke her brother who does not like her and hasn't been in her life for 23 years decided to show up at the hospital and help her out. He filed her disability paperwork that got screwed up and my mom had no money until last month. All the doctors will give him information not me. He's a mortgage broker, I'm sure he did something to try to screw me out of the money. My mom wants a majority of her money to go to my daughter when she dies so my daughter can go to college (we still have a collage fund for my daughter). Yes, she has life insurance and I suspect that he did something to change that when she was in the hospital with the stroke. My mom didn't want to stress me out so she let her brother who doesn't like her do everything.. I've tried telling my mom what's going on but she's very naive, she wants to believe that her family now cares about her after not speaking to her for years but that's not the case and everybody around her sees it.



My mom doesn't have the results from the CT back but her doctor wants her to get an MRI. Her doctor said the neck pain is arthritis, I guess they did an x-ray as well.