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WWYD? Narcissus Due November 5 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10405 posts
7th Jan '13

I babysit a 4 year old girl on Mondays and Tuesdays as a favor for my friend until her daycare situation is fixed.




Now, I love this little girl. She's my daughter from another mother basically lol. She's very smart, funny, sassy, and just all around a cutie patutie.




I'm concerned about one thing, and it's her weight. She's a stocky, 70 lb little lady.



When I first started baby sitting her, her ma would always come through the door with a happy meal or some fast food of some sort. We don't really consume fast food unless it's a treat. We cook our meals so I told her I'd have lunch ready for her daughter and my son by the time they arrived to my home. I think she took it into consideration, because she rarely brings things.



When her ma brings things like Capri Sun, I limit her daughter. When it comes to any of the junk food her ma brings, i make sure its one of the last items consumed.




Her ma has even told me she thinks her little girl has an obsession with food. She's constantly hungry from what she tells us, and midway of eating, she'll need to go #2.




We have a schedule in our home when it comes to breakfast/lunch/dinner/snack for the most part. If its something healthy, i dont mind hilario chowing, but if its something not so great, then its a treat.



Her ma literally fed her an hour ago, and shes telling me she's starving..



She just said she was full not even half an hour ago.




I told her she needed to wait for lunch, which is around 2:30 (LO wakes up from nap). She started throwing an attitude, so i offered a fruit in the meantime, but she refused and threatened to tell her Mommy on me (lol).




Am I crossing boundaries by staying firm with her? Am I doing something wrong?



Lol any good advice helps. Im barely two years into parenting.. So 4 year olds are new territory.



And its constantly raining here, so we're always inside. Any good active activities for indoors for the kids?

Efflorescence 1 child; California 741 posts
status 7th Jan '13

Maybe offering her a cup of water and then wait a few minutes and see how she feels.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36521 posts
7th Jan '13

No, I think you are doing what her parents are suppose to be doing.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
7th Jan '13

I think you should talk with her mother and work something out with her. That way she knows what the deal is and won't be concerned if her 4 year old tells her that you won't feed her.

Bop ✿ 3 kids; Alabama 22508 posts
7th Jan '13

that is so sad :( 70lbs and 4?



I think you are doing the right thing, and helping her in the long run. I would continue to do what you are doing and if her mom has a problem with it then she can let you know

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19072 posts
7th Jan '13

A 70 pound 4 year old?! Poor kid. :(



I would play duck duck goose, maybe have "dance parties" and even play games where you have to move around acting like a certain animal and you take turns guessing what the other person is.

lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA* 21 kids; Sherwood, Arkansas 17987 posts
7th Jan '13

I dont have much advice but dear god 70 pounds?? my 9 year old just hit 80 lbs (shes tall too) and my 5 year old is still just about 50 lbs give or take. (shes about average height) that is ridicously heavy for a child of her age and im assuming shes average or short in height since you said stocky. that sounds very dangerous for her. have you tried talking to her mother about the food she eats? i mean do you know her well enough to talk about it? All of my good friends would not take any offense if i wanted to offer help or whatever if i thought something was unsettling about one of their kids. in the meantime try to feed her healthy foods while shes with you, maybe not so much juice or sugary drinks. if she wants to complain to her mother tell her that you have already talked to her mother about it. by no means do i think that children need to DIET but she needs to eat healthier and maybe get more active... before she ends up with severe health issues.

Brown Eyed Girl! Due December 7; 18 kids; North Dakota 12704 posts
7th Jan '13

That is very heavy for a 4 year old but that's exactly how my niece was. Then they found out she is ADHD and got her on medication. She was compulsively eating before she got on the medication. Once she was on meds, she was able to control what was going on and eat in moderation. Now she is the proper weight for her age.



That could also be a sign of diabetes. Are the parents overweight? Is the little girl active? Does she drink a lot of water or barely any?

Narcissus Due November 5 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10405 posts
7th Jan '13

*sigh*




and here I thought I was being a b***h..



I know her mom is diabetic, and yes her parents are overweight. I offer her water all of the time, but i dont think she drinks much water. Her urine is pungent, KWIM?




ETA: she has a sedentary lifestyle. So do we, but we try doing as much as we can as often as we can.

*MommaLindz* TTC since Dec 2013; 3 kids; Oklahoma 1057 posts
7th Jan '13

I would talk with the mom and let her know she is getting fed enough, but explain that it is on a schedule. it will be important for her to get used to an eating schedule before she goes to daycare. (unless there is a medical.issue like diabetes, like another reply said)

lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA* 21 kids; Sherwood, Arkansas 17987 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Narcissus
Efflorescence 1 child; California 741 posts
status 7th Jan '13
Quoting Narcissus
Narcissus Due November 5 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10405 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:</b>" tell her its water or nothing in your house. she WILL get thirsty. my children drink alot of water but ... [snip!] ... but get juice and milk too. they dont overindulge so they are healthy but it sounds like she just drinks sugary crap only."</blockquote>




That's basically what I do with her.




I feel like a b***h because this is my friend. I dont want her thinking Im being critical of her. I know her schedule is hectic, but still..

Narcissus Due November 5 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10405 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Efflorescence:</b>" I think your doing more than enough and should talk to her mother. My nephew is probably heading there he is 50 pounds and 2 years old. Your being a good friend."</blockquote>




Thank you, i really appreciate that :}

Bop ✿ 3 kids; Alabama 22508 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Brown Eyed Girl!:" That is very heavy for a 4 year old but that's exactly how my niece was. Then they found out she is ADHD ... [snip!] ... also be a sign of diabetes. Are the parents overweight? Is the little girl active? Does she drink a lot of water or barely any?"


The meds also cause them loss of appetite and loss of weight. My oldest has always been small and underweight and he is on the meds and lost some when he first started it and now seems to be staying at the same weight not gaining nor losing. He just turned 8 and he is 48lbs.



My 5 year old daughter is 42lbs and my youngest son who is 3 is 32lbs