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*********** Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 5829 posts
status 7th Jan '13

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speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 44959 posts
7th Jan '13

I wouldn't do it.



That sounds like a huge potential mess right there.

Bettinas 2 kids; Australia 2204 posts
7th Jan '13

Just explain that you would be more comfortable if it were done in a legal means and it wouldn't feel right giving his wife a baby that wasn't genetically hers. I'm sure they'd understand :)



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And if they're willing to pay you a few grand, couldn't they just pay for ivf?

Snickles 4 kids; California 3064 posts
7th Jan '13

That doesn't sound legal to me

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26; 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
7th Jan '13

They want to use your eggs?

Renea2009 1 child; Crowley, Texas 289 posts
7th Jan '13

Just tell her you are open to doing it the legal way with her egg and his sperm and not any other way...if they don't have the money then I'm sorry there's no way I would give away my baby for a few grand

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I wouldn't do it. That sounds like a huge potential mess right there."


:!:

It is possible though, my sister got pregnant with their "donor" and a diaphragm.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14359 posts
7th Jan '13

No lawyers even? You absolutely would need your own attorney (picked by you, paid for by them) and a contract beforehand.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
7th Jan '13

I can see you being taken to court for child support for this.



#1 he's your boyfriend, not your husband. You're willing to go through 9 months of stretching, pulling, kicking, being sick, and giving birth, to give someone YOUR baby?



You don't think that will effect your relationship with your SO?
Do you think he will be sympathetic to your pregnancy when it's not his baby?
How do you think your SO will feel about you having someone else's baby...and it literally being YOURS and another man's?
How do you think you'll feel when you give birth to your child and then some woman and another man just take it from you and hand you a check?



They don't have the money to do it the real way....so a woman is agreeing to give you her husband's sperm, and your boyfriend is okay with this....yet they have a few grand to hand you when it's all said and done?



I see this being on dateline in 5 years.

★ASHLEY★ 17 kids; Michigan 1274 posts
7th Jan '13

I wouldn't do it....

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
7th Jan '13

Don't do it! I can't believe they're suggesting it . Tell then you're not comfortable doing it unless it's the wife's eggs. I'm sorry they're asking for something so strange and putting you in that position

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 5829 posts
status 7th Jan '13

Yeah, I really don't want to do it.
I'm just afraid I'll hurt her feelings because I was cool with the idea before.



SO is NOT okay with it, we actually argued when I told him she called.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18092 posts
7th Jan '13

Wow.



No way. Just say, you'd love to help them, but you know you couldn't give away your own biological baby like that.




:shock:




Run, mamma, run.!

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Ole' No Name:" Yeah, I really don't want to do it. I'm just afraid I'll hurt her feelings because I was cool with the idea before. SO is NOT okay with it, we actually argued when I told him she called."


Would you want someone's lady juice going into his p***s and impregnating him for 9 months? I'd be pissed too.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26125 posts
status 7th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" I can see you being taken to court for child support for this. #1 he's your boyfriend, not your husband. ... [snip!] ... okay with this....yet they have a few grand to hand you when it's all said and done? I see this being on dateline in 5 years. "


This. I mean jeeeze, what if the wife leaves? YOU can be stuck with child support. This is a big hot mess.