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Snickles 4 kids; California 3071 posts
7th Jan '13

You said you would be a surrogate, as in carry their child. You never said you would give them your egg, therefore your child. That is two very different things.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
7th Jan '13

Can u just tell her you meant you would if it was legal and they paid properly and it was their egg etc. and they don't have the money so won't ask again

Tabatha Allen 1 child; Bardstown, Kentucky 504 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I can see you being taken to court for child support for this. #1 he's your boyfriend, not your husband. ... [snip!] ... okay with this....yet they have a few grand to hand you when it's all said and done? I see this being on dateline in 5 years. "</blockquote>




This!

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
7th Jan '13

I was gonna do this same thing fo ra freind... and we agreed to try it "turkey" baster way a couple times and then go for IUI if it didnt work since thats pretty cheap.. but since i didnt have insurance they wanted me to get medicaid and lie and say her husband knocked me up and im signing over my rights like adoption.


i was not down for that and backed out of it. i dont think helping someone you know is a good idea.. especially if its your own eggs. i had to back down.

now I will be a gestational carrier in the future but not my own eggs.... im glad i never went through with it,

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 6244 posts
7th Jan '13

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Snickles 4 kids; California 3071 posts
7th Jan '13

I don't think its mean. and honestly I can't believe they would expect you to just give them your egg



ETA: I believe you, but can't believe the nerve of them to ask

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
7th Jan '13

What did she say to your message?

L♥vey +2 Due October 2 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Nevada 2322 posts
7th Jan '13

Tell them you are more interested in gestational surrogacy than donating your own egg. :( Sorry they don't have money for it, but maybe they should look into it more.

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 6244 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" What did she say to your message?"</blockquote>




I haven't gotten a reply.. I think she's pissed off :?
Hopefully she was asleep or something, I hate this.
I'm afraid my SO's boss will be mad at him too and we CANNOT afford for him to lose his job. :(

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Ole' No Name:" I just texted her this: We talked about it for a while. And I don't think emotionally I could handle ... [snip!] ... now. It would just weigh on me that it was actually my biological child. know what I mean? That's not mean right? :? :? :?"


I wouldn't even consider it if it were her eggs.



She's not a family member or long time friend...she's your boyfriend's boss....

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" What did she say to your message?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... or something, I hate this. I'm afraid my SO's boss will be mad at him too and we CANNOT afford for him to lose his job. :("


Oh he will not lose his job. If he did you could sue that company for a TON of money, over them firing him for you not being willing to have her husband's baby and then you let them adopt it. His job is the most secure position in that company.

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ole' No Name:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" What did she say to your message?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... or something, I hate this. I'm afraid my SO's boss will be mad at him too and we CANNOT afford for him to lose his job. :("</blockquote>



If he does, sue the f**k out of them. Sorry mama!

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 6244 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Oh he wil ll not lose his job. If he did you could sue that company for a TON of money, over them firing ... [snip!] ... being willing to have her husband's baby and then you let them adopt it. His job is the most secure position in that company. "</blockquote>



What if they find another reasons to fire him?
I mean he's never been late, never missed a day in the whole 8 months he's worked there.
But he smokes weed and if they drug test him he can lose his job.. And i think his boss knows he smokes :?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Oh he wil ll not lose his job. If he did ... [snip!] ... he's worked there. But he smokes weed and if they drug test him he can lose his job.. And i think his boss knows he smokes :?"


Then he's an idiot for smoking weed, knowing that they can drug test him at random and that he can lose his job over it.

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 6244 posts
8th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Then he's an idiot for smoking weed, knowing that they can drug test him at random and that he can lose his job over it. "</blockquote>




They don't drug test randomly.
He didn't even get tested to be hired, he only gets tested if he has an accident at work and needs to go to the hospital.