Quoting kr.r:" Met summer of '09, started whatever unofficial secret-ish relationship we had in March of '10, which ... [snip!] ... without our son. We didn't have much time for just the two of us, but we didn't plan for Liam to come about. Mistakes and such."
I think this was part of the reason my first marriage failed. That and him hooking up with people on craigslist.
Hah. But we were married two days and I found out i was pregnant, had 3 kids in 3 years. Nothing in common. I was 19.5, and stupid. I should've known when I had second doubts about our wedding. I shouldn't have done it.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Loveislouder:</b>" I think this was part of the reason my first marriage failed. That and him hooking up with people on ... [snip!] ... in common. I was 19.5, and stupid. I should've known when I had second doubts about our wedding. I shouldn't have done it."</blockquote>
Oh, I have no doubts about spending the rest of my life with him, through whatever comes our way. But extra time would have been nice. If I could've done it differently, I would've not had a child before marriage just so there'd be alone time before all our energies were used on looking after our child.
We met online and talked a lot before we met in real life. When we did meet in real life we just clicked, we are both shy yet could hold a conversation with each other very easily. We have a lot in common, our personalities are very similar. We talked about marriage and kids almost right away because we were adults and knew we did not want just a fling or one night stand.
We ended up engaged after eight months of officially dating. It was a mutual engagement lol. We moved in together, and finished college together. Two years later, the semester I graduated, we got married. A year after marriage TTC our first. We've been married four years now, but knew each other (online and real life) for three years.
With us it's working because we still talk a lot. From the beginning we both told each other exactly what we wanted to go to. We both desired marriage and kids. Then again we were also in mid-twenties and were both ready for it.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Loveislouder:</b>" Oh I am the same. I didn't ever want to do the date for fun scene. I mean, why waste time person to person? Never made sense. "</blockquote>
I had just had my heart completely broken. So I was actually trying to scare him off. Fortunately he doesn't scare easy. But I really don't get it either unless you never plan on getting married
We were together for 4 months when he proposed, and were married in a week. We had never spoken of marriage before, probably because a few months before I met him I had just gotten out of an abusive engagement with my ex. But I loved my husband and I had never felt that way before about any man, so I said yes. We have been married 4 years, will be 5 in August. I'm still madly in love with him.
we met October 2011
Started dating November 2011
I got a promise ring in December 2011
Found out we were pregnant May 2012
He moved into my moms place with me June 2012
And we moved into our own place November 2012
No "actual" engagement as of yet but we've pretty much been talking about marriage since January 2012. We had a date set but we decided to postpone it because we'd rather provide everything we can for the baby than spend a bunch of money on a wedding. We're going to wait until she's old enough to walk down the aisle as a flower girl :)
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Loveislouder:</b>" Oh I am the same. I didn't ever want to ... [snip!] ... to scare him off. Fortunately he doesn't scare easy. But I really don't get it either unless you never plan on getting married"
Yup. I was over my husband for a while before I even thought about dating. He was a douchebag. I was just glad he was gone ha.
Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" We were together for 4 months when he proposed, and were married in a week. We had never spoken of marriage ... [snip!] ... way before about any man, so I said yes. We have been married 4 years, will be 5 in August. I'm still madly in love with him. "
Whoa, that is awesome :) I love stories like this.
It'll be 7 years in May and we're getting married next year :).
Quoting Loveislouder:" Whoa, that is awesome :) I love stories like this. "
Aww thank you :) We got married faster than I expected, but I wouldn't change it. It was one of the best decisions in my life, and I would do it over and over again.
idk how soon, too soon is...i think it juts depends on the couple.
we met in Oct. of 2003 (we were 15)
started dating officially Feb. of 2004
started talking babies & marriage in 2005
got pregnant, and engaged 2006
been together 9 years...still not married lol
We met in February, started dating the beginning of March, moved in the beginning of June, and just got engaged December 18. Marriage had been discussed since moving in. I think when you know you know. I was with my ex 7 years and never felt the way about him that I do about my fiance.
my husband proposed 2.5 years after we met and at that time we were togeher for a year and a half. we didnt get married until 5 years later though :)
i knew a year before my SO and i even got together technically that he was my soulmate...sounds crazy but i pictured marrying him before he was even mine( we were friends with benefits for a yr before we became offical)...now we have been together 13 months, living together 9 months, but we arent engaged or married...
with my ex we were together 5 yrs, had 2 kids, but i never ever felt the way i do about him like i do my current man.
if it was up to me, we'd already be engaged... even married.
but, we do have some important issues that have to be fixed before id say "yes" to him(in my post about our sex life lol)...thats really our only problem.
i think its all depends on the couple...do what feels right to you, not someone else :)