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Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7451 posts
8th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" To the people who "treat guests like guests" so would clean up after them...i'd rather teach my kids ... [snip!] ... if at the end of the day they just left and a huge mess was there- especially since my kids know to pick up after themselves."</blockquote>




I agree, which is why I said as a host I wouldn't expect it, but as a mother I would get my child to help if we were guests.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" I didn't invite them, lol. I dunno, I make my kids clean up when they make messes regardless of where we are."


Oh, my personal opinion still stands though lol. I mean in our culture, as guests, we are expected to 'offer' to help, but as hosts we can never accept the help.

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, OK, United States 5335 posts
8th Jan '13

I would prefer that over what my friends kid does. When she comes over with her 2 year old, he breaks things, throws stuff everywhere, and throws giant fits. His mother just sits there and doesn't say or do anything and he doesn't listen to me. And since he's not my child, I can't punish him. *sigh*

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" I would prefer that over what my friends kid does. When she comes over with her 2 year old, he breaks ... [snip!] ... sits there and doesn't say or do anything and he doesn't listen to me. And since he's not my child, I can't punish him. *sigh*"


Yikes, I'd have a hard time not saying something in that circumstance! You must have the patience of a saint!

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17769 posts
status 8th Jan '13

Maybe it's me, but I have no problem telling other children they need to clean up. I always remind them thirty minutes before they leave with an "Okay, time to pick up the room and put everything back in place." After a little while, I make it a game..whether it be "whoever picks up the fastest is the winner!" or the clean up song.



Even if I were the host, it is common courtesy. Kids need to learn it, just like their mothers should know it. It may not be spotless and things may not be put back the the exact spot, but there needs to be an effort.



If I am a guest at someone's house and they make supper, I gladly set the table and offer to clean the dishes. Sometimes it is refused, but it is just the courtesy to offer.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Maybe it's me, but I have no problem telling other children they need to clean up. I always remind them ... [snip!] ... supper, I gladly set the table and offer to clean the dishes. Sometimes it is refused, but it is just the courtesy to offer. "


Maybe I should have just stepped in. I mean, I always make my kids clean up when we go to their house. I don't expect perfection but see..our house is 750 sq ft. Our living room is about 150 sq ft with a couch, a chair, a coffee table and a bookshelf. In other words, toys. were. everywhere.

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, OK, United States 5335 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" Yikes, I'd have a hard time not saying something in that circumstance! You must have the patience of a saint!"


Ha! I wish lol. I really wanna say something about it, but she doesn't listen to advice and is against discipline all together unless she does it. Sometimes I find its better to keep my mouth shut lol. Less headaches that way.