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to do it or not to do it bugs mommy☮ 1 child; Newport News, Virginia 7026 posts
9th Jan '13

that is the question.



i have horrible baby fever
i don't want a baby right now
but the thought will not go away



would you mention it to someone you have been dating a year?
i don't know if it would weird him out
he's mentioned kids before, and being together forever
:? hmmm




if its not a good idea, at least i can be crazy and vent here :)

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45799 posts
status 9th Jan '13

No, it wouldn't be a good idea to mention it to someone you've been dating for such a short time.

Kristen Parris 2 kids; Virginia 1899 posts
status 9th Jan '13

Yeah I would say definitely not to only a year of being together.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
9th Jan '13

Sounds like a terrible idea, if it were me I would be running for the hills if someone told me that after a year!

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
9th Jan '13

Absolutely not. I don't think I could mention that to anyone ever, regardless of dating/married length. Such a strange thing to converse about and decide on. My son was an accident, heh.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
9th Jan '13

if its really bugging u then i would discuss it w/your SO....just like u posted about it. He will either help u confirm u dont really want another right now or encourage the idea talk u into ttc soon? either way ,its something you both need to discuss

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
9th Jan '13
Quoting kr.r:" Absolutely not. I don't think I could mention that to anyone ever, regardless of dating/married length. Such a strange thing to converse about and decide on. My son was an accident, heh."


talking about and planning to concieve is strange? :?

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
9th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:</b>" talking about and planning to concieve is strange? :?"</blockquote>



To me. Definitely not strange for everyone who's normal and into the idea of reproducing. Just not my cup of tea. I very much did not ever want a child and was thrilled to be told by two doctors that it was impossible. Turns out they were wrong.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1797 posts
9th Jan '13

I met my husband on an online game through my mom and he was overseas, we started talking about having kids after only a couple months because we both wanted a baby so badly, we finally met after a year and ttc the night he got into town and got married a week later, after over 2 years and 2 kids we are still going strong. You can talk to your SO about it and get his opinion on it, you never know he may be all for it.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
9th Jan '13
Quoting Lin Brown:" I met my husband on an online game through my mom and he was overseas, we started talking about having ... [snip!] ... we are still going strong. You can talk to your SO about it and get his opinion on it, you never know he may be all for it."


:shock::shock:

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1797 posts
9th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:</b>" :shock::shock:"</blockquote>




Ya we moved way fast, he actually moved to GA to be with me. I thought it was freaking crazy until it actually happened

bugs mommy☮ 1 child; Newport News, Virginia 7026 posts
9th Jan '13

im nervous to say something ..
probably won't (:

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45799 posts
status 9th Jan '13
Quoting bugs mommy☮:" im nervous to say something .. probably won't (:"


If you are that nervous and questioning it that much, it definitely isn't the right time.

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16027 posts
9th Jan '13
Quoting bugs mommy☮:" that is the question. i have horrible baby fever i don't want a baby right now but the thought will ... [snip!] ... mentioned kids before, and being together forever :? hmmm if its not a good idea, at least i can be crazy and vent here :)"


I would not, unless there's some sort of understanding or commitment going on.. you know, like the two of you are buying a house together, getting engaged or married, investing in something etc.



Otherwise, I think you should wait.. oh and.. I've been there! Meh, it was a difficult time.