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HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21595 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" I see your point. However, to her specific example of having sex and someone sticking their finger in my butt, I would not feel violated. A little annoyed, yes, but not assaulted."</blockquote>




I would feel violated. Even when at the doctor and they have to check for hemorrhoids I feel violated. TMI I know

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
10th Jan '13

I'm standing completely naked on a street corner.



It's not rape if some guy has sex with me because I'm obviously naked and ready to go.



Puh-leeze

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" I see your point. However, to her specific example of having sex and someone sticking their finger in my butt, I would not feel violated. A little annoyed, yes, but not assaulted."


Violated is not assaulted. Some women are NOT okay at all with anal play, so someone doing that without any previous discussion? graphic, here, lol, but especially if she wasn't prepared, it could have really hurt and surprised her if she isn't used to it. Also, the relationship with the person matters. SOmeones husband? Way different then a one night stand, you know?

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" I see your point. However, to her specific example of having sex and someone sticking their finger in my butt, I would not feel violated. A little annoyed, yes, but not assaulted."</blockquote>




I agree, some find that enjoyable and do it to help enhance the sexual experience. Doesn't mean they were trying to violate you, it could mean they were trying to please you more.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21595 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting House of Estrogen:</b>" I'm standing completely naked on a street corner. It's not rape if some guy has sex with me because I'm obviously naked and ready to go. Puh-leeze"</blockquote>




Uh nobody has said that

HotMom21ERF Due December 17; 1 child; Kentucky 19590 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" I see your point. However, to her specific ... [snip!] ... I would feel violated. Even when at the doctor and they have to check for hemorrhoids I feel violated. TMI I know"


omg i know! its so weird. im kinda just lying there like, " ummmmm......"

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" I see your point. However, to her specific example of having sex and someone sticking their finger in my butt, I would not feel violated. A little annoyed, yes, but not assaulted."


I never said I felt assaulted, I felt violated. If assplay is completely out of the question, then nothing should be going up there. I said no and no means no.

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting House of Estrogen:</b>" I'm standing completely naked on a street ... [snip!] ... guy has sex with me because I'm obviously naked and ready to go. Puh-leeze"</blockquote> Uh nobody has said that"


I know. I was playing off your orgasm thing.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Yes, it's still rape. I HATE when people ... [snip!] ... like men who think because a woman gets wet that means she's consenting. "</blockquote> I agree. I completely agree."


Sadly, a lot of rapists LIKE that. The idea of having that control over a womans body is part of the power play, which is why the idea is so insulting, you know? That basically if a womans body sexually responds she no longer gets to have a say over it.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21595 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" omg i know! its so weird. im kinda just lying there like, " ummmmm......""</blockquote>




Yea. Even though I consent to that happening I still feel violated. Assaulted, no. But violated

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22817 posts
status 10th Jan '13
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" This is totally hypothetical, did not happen to me. If you're having sex with a guy, and it was discussed ... [snip!] ... he accidently did it or anything, he just ignored what you wanted to came in you. ETA: would you call it sexual assualt?"


no way is that rape. deplorable behavior but not rape.

HotMom21ERF Due December 17; 1 child; Kentucky 19590 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" I see your point. However, to her specific ... [snip!] ... enhance the sexual experience. Doesn't mean they were trying to violate you, it could mean they were trying to please you more."

Agreed

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21595 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting House of Estrogen:</b>" I know. I was playing off your orgasm thing."</blockquote>



Ok I've had people say that before to sexual assault victims that I've seen. It offends the hell out of me

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21595 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Sadly, a lot of rapists LIKE that. The idea of having that control over a womans body is part of the ... [snip!] ... idea is so insulting, you know? That basically if a womans body sexually responds she no longer gets to have a say over it. "</blockquote>




Yea I understand. It offends me when people say if you orgasm it isn't rape or it isn't legimate rape. I've also seen where a person has said if someone is a victim of "legimate rape" then their body will resist pregnancy

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
10th Jan '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" I see your point. However, to her specific ... [snip!] ... enhance the sexual experience. Doesn't mean they were trying to violate you, it could mean they were trying to please you more."


But I've made it plainly clear that inserting anything into my anus makes me feel uncomfortable. It's not my pleasure, it's their pleasure.